A single conversation across the table with your partner on things that will benefit your relationship is worth more than a month’s study of books, articles or even expert advises on how to better your relationship.
Many people complain, ”My partner never talks to me”. The fault may be theirs. However, many times their partners want to talk with them, but they don’t make it easy for them. In what way?, you may want to ask.
As a woman in a relationship, ask yourself whether you fit any one of these descriptions:
First, a woman who interrupts her husband. For example, her partner wanting to tell her how his day went, starts, ‘honey you’ll never guess what happened at work……..’ He never gets any further, she interrupts him with, “how did you get that spot on your coat?”
Or perhaps, they are conversing with friends and he is relating an experience, but leaves out some of the details or doesn’t get them all exactly right. His partner puts in, first to correct the flaws, and then round up the story. Before long he takes a deep breath and says, “why don’t you tell it.”
Second. A woman who encourages her partner to talk. Trying to appear casual, but bursting with curiosity, she asks: ‘where were you?’ ‘who was there?’ Not the routine things of life, but those that seems to be confidential, are the ones that intrigues her. Perhaps some of it is information that are partner should not have divulged. Where she keeps such information to herself, not telling any other person, her partner will feel free about talking to her, all the time. She pieces together, the bits of information about her partner and use it for the betterment of their relationship.
Third. A woman who is not much of a talker herself. She knows how to do the necessary work around the house. But she seldom has more than a few words to say. Anyone who tries to converse with her has to do all the talking. Efforts at conversation with her fall flat. But changes can be made. The art of conversation can be learned. If a woman does worthwhile reading and kind deeds for other people, she will have up building things to share with her mate. Successful conversation requires sharing. It also requires respect- enough respect to let him finish, say it his own way, and to know when there is a confidence to be kept.
Therefore, instead of complaining that your partner seldom talks to you, why not try to make it a pleasure for him to do so? Be interested in the things that he does. Listen intently when he speaks. Let your response reflect the warm love and deep respect that you have for him. Be sure that the things you talk about are of a positive, up building nature. You may soon find that conversation is a pleasure to both of you.
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