About To Wed? Know Your Partner

Sometimes, it is surprising (and embarrassing) that would-be couple, who are preparing for their wedding ceremony in a few months away, do not know much about the other person. Some are not even very sure why they want to marry and what they want in marriage.

Every necessary information, if available, is needed by couples who have lived an independent life in the past twenty or thirty years, under different parental and cultural backgrounds, attended different schools, perhaps growing up in different religious backgrounds, and have developed different core-values of likes and dislikes in life.

The real essence of making inquires during the courtship and the pre-courtship stage of marriage relationships is to have maximum information about the other partner. Some partners take this for granted. Others know little or nothing about the other person’s medical history much less of his or her regular habits and means of livelihood. And all this information arms the couple with the essential knowledge-base in handling issues in marriage, especially in the area of communication and adjustments.

Beauty and sex are not enough. They do not erase mental and spiritual incompatibility. The inner person is more important than the outward appearance. As charm may be false, so can prettiness may be vain.

So, efforts must be made by person’s getting married to learn about each other. This will help the marriage in the formation of a happy married life.