How to Choose a Marriage Counselor

Admitting you need the assistance of a marriage counselor is the first step to salvaging your troubled marriage.  Once you and your partner have acknowledged your need for professional help, the two of you will need to choose a counselor together.  Choosing a marriage counselor is a very personal thing.  The right counselor for you and your spouse is the one that you both feel comfortable with and have confidence in their ability to help you resolve your problems.  You may find counselors who come highly recommended and who have helped friends and family members of yours but unless you have faith in the counselor they won’t be able to help you.  Choosing a marriage counselor may be hindered by the fact that your marital relationship is already troubled but it’s important that you work together to choose the right marriage counselor if you are serious about saving your relationship. 

Seeking recommendations from trusted friends and family members who have employed the use of a marriage counselor is a good place to start your search.  You can take the opportunity to ask your friends and relatives what they liked and didn’t like about the counselor who helped them and use this information to determine whether or not you have any interest in having a consultation with their recommended counselor.  In speaking to your friend or relative try to ask questions that elicit specific responses about the marriage counselor’s demeanor and techniques without asking your trusted source to divulge any sensitive details about their counseling sessions.  You need to understand that worked for others may not help your marriage but having a few trusted persons make recommendations is a good place to begin your search. 

Next, utilize the Internet to research marriage counselors in your area.  Look for counselors who have web pages that describe their education, life experience and techniques for conflict resolution.  This type of information is useful for deciding before you even meet them if you think they can help you.  If there is anything about their website that bothers you, trust your instincts and cross them off your list of potential marriage counselors.  Trusting your marriage counselor is extremely important so if there is anything that bothers you right away, then they aren’t the right counselor for you because you will go into the sessions feeling guarded which will hinder your progress.

In a relationship that is already troubled, it might be worthwhile to do the preliminary research on available marriage counselors separately.  This will allow the two of you to decide what you are looking for in a marriage counselor without further complicating any pre-existing issues in your marriage.  Seek recommendations from friends and family members and do your Internet research separately.  Once you have both compiled a list of potential counselors compare your lists and agree to interview those that overlap on your lists.  If you do not have any overlap, agree to each choose two candidates and meet with these four marriage counselors in the next step of the process. 

Once you have selected a few potential marriage counselors, it is time to set up initial consultations with each of them.  These consultations will give you the opportunity to meet with each counselor to get to know them a little better and learn about their conflict resolution strategies.  It is also a chance to determine how comfortable you feel around this counselor and whether you will be able to open up to him or her and express your true feelings.  This is also your opportunity to decide whether or not you truly have faith that this marriage counselor is the one that can save your marriage.  Prepare for these sessions ahead of time by coming up with a list of questions that will help you to obtain a better understanding of the counselor and their methods.  In coming up with these questions, either work together with your spouse to develop a list of questions or encourage your spouse to do so on their own so that you are both prepared for the initial consultation.  As with your Internet research if there is something you just don’t trust about one of the marriage counselors in your initial consultations then trust your gut and eliminate them from your list.  An initial consultation is an excellent way to get all your questions about the marriage counselor answered and to become acquainted with the counselor on a personal level.  Your initial consultation with a marriage counselor is probably the most important step in determining if they are right for you and your spouse so take this step very seriously.

Once you and your counselor have met with all of the marriage counselors on your proposed list, it is time to make your decision.  Hopefully, the two of you will agree on a counselor and will be able to begin your sessions immediately but if you can’t reach an agreement try another method to determining which counselor to choose.  You could try a method such as having each partner rank the candidates from 1-4 in order of preference and then agree to choose the counselor who receives the lowest combined score.  While this method may sound silly, it is important to remember that you are going to counseling because there is a problem in your marriage and further aggregating the problem by arguing over a marriage counselor may lead to one of the partners deciding that counseling isn’t worth it and giving up on the relationship. 

Choosing a marriage counselor can be a difficult and stressful process but it’s imperative to remember that this is an extremely important decision that deserves your utmost attention.  Choosing the right marriage counselor is critical to the success of the counseling sessions.  An already troubled marriage can be further weakened by the process of choosing a marriage counselor so you and your partner should exercise caution not to allow yourselves to argue over this process.  The right marriage counselor will be able to salvage your relationship as long as you and your spouse are committed to using the counseling to solve your problems.

The Guide To Wife Translations

The wife says: You want
The wife means: You want

The wife says: We need
The wife means: I want

The wife says: It's your decision
The wife means: The correct decision should be obvious

The wife says: Do what you want
The wife means: You'll pay for this later

The wife says: We need to talk
The wife means: I need to complain

The wife says: Sure... go ahead
The wife means: I don't want you to

The wife says: I'n not upset
The wife means: Of course I'm upset you moron

The wife says: You're ... so manly
The wife means: You need a shave and sweat a lot

The wife says: Be romantic, turn out the lights
The wife means: I have flabby thighs.

The wife says: This kitchen is so inconvenient
The wife means: I want a new house.

The wife says: I want new curtains.
The wife means: Also carpeting, furniture, and wallpaper!

The wife says: I need wedding shoes.
The wife means: The other forty pairs are the wrong shade of white.

The wife says: Hang the picture there
The wife means: No, I mean hang it there!

The wife says: I heard a noise
The wife means: I noticed you were almost asleep.

The wife says: Do you love me?
The wife means: I'm going to ask for something expensive.

The wife says: How much do you love me?
The wife means: I did something today you're not going to like.



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The wife says: I'll be ready in a minute.
The wife means: Kick off your shoes and take an hour nap.

The wife says: Am I fat?
The wife means: Tell me I'm beautiful.

The wife says: You have to learn to communicate.
The wife means: Just agree with me.

The wife says: Are you listening to me?
The wife means: [Too late, your doomed.]

The wife says: Yes
The wife means: No

The wife says: No
The wife means: No

The wife says: Maybe
The wife means: No

The wife says: I'm sorry
The wife means: You'll be sorry

The wife says: Do you like this recipe?
The wife means: You better get used to it

The wife says: All we're going to buy is a soap dish
The wife means: I'm coming back with enough to fill this place.

The wife says: Was that the baby?
The wife means: Get out of bed and walk him

The wife says: I'm not yelling!
The wife means: Yes I am! I think this is important!

In answer to the question "What's wrong?"

The wife says: The same old thing.
The wife means: Nothing.

The wife says: Nothing.
The wife means: Everything.

The wife says: Nothing, really.
The wife means: It's just that you're an idiot.

The wife says: I don't want to talk about it.
The wife means: I'm still building up steam.
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How to Give Compliments and Sound Sincere

The key to giving compliments is sounding sincere so that the recipient of the compliment is truly flattered and appreciative of the compliment.  An insincere compliment does not convey the same message.  If you are giving the compliment for your own personal gain,  your lack of sincerity will result in the person receiving the compliment not really feeling touched by your words.  Sincere compliments are simple, timely and they are not premeditated.  A sincere compliment is also often given in the presence of others. 

When complimenting someone it’s important to keep your compliment simple and specific.  A compliment that is too over the top sounds forced and does not seem sincere.  Instead of gushing about the recipient of the compliment offer a simple compliment on a specific achievement.  The simplicity of the compliment will sound more genuine than if you had gone into great detail in your compliment.  Also offering a compliment on a specific achievement instead of making a generalization shows that your compliment is sincere because you realize the importance of the achievement.  Offering a sincere compliment doesn’t have to be difficult, just keep your words simple and focus on the reason you are giving the compliment. 

Offering your compliment in a timely manner is also important to sounding sincere.  A compliment is most likely to be perceived as being genuine if it is offered relatively soon after the achievement is attained.  For example it would be appropriate to offer a college a compliment on a job well done on a project within a day or two of completion of the project because you see them on a daily basis while not offering the compliment almost immediately may result in it being perceived as insincere.  However if you hear that a former co-worker has just received a promotion it is appropriate to wait until the next time you see them to offer your compliment or you may send them an email within a week or two of hearing the news.  In the first example your daily contact with the other person warrants a compliment be given quickly while in the second example your distance allows you to wait a little longer before offering a compliment without the compliment seeming forced or out of place. 

Sincere compliments are spoken from the heart and are not premeditated.  A true compliment is spoken freely and without much thought while rehearsing and planning a compliment appears obligatory and insincere.  While thinking before you speak is generally a good idea, putting too much thought into a compliment can have the effect of not seeming genuine.  When offering a compliment let your emotions speak instead of calculating your words and your compliment will seem sincere.

Additionally a sincere compliment is also either given in writing or offered in front of others.  Doing this places additional validity on the compliment.  A compliment offered in writing or in the presence of witnesses conveys sincerity by virtue of the fact that the person offering the compliment is willing to allow proof of the compliment.  Compliments given verbally with no witnesses may in fact be sincere but offering the compliments in front of others is more effective if you want to appear sincere. 

Finally the most important and also most obvious way to give a compliment and sound sincere is to truly believe in the compliment you are giving.  If you are genuinely impressed with a person or their actions and offer an honest compliment, your sincerity will shine through and the other person will be duly impressed and flattered by your compliment.  It may sound overly simple but resist the temptation to give a compliment that you don’t really mean.  Compliments are also given for reasons other than sincerity such as personal gain and these compliments are rarely seen as sincere.  However, when a compliment is given simply because there is a feeling of admiration for the person receiving the compliment, the sincerity is obvious. 

The art of giving a sincere compliment involves a number of factors.  Perhaps the most important thing to remember is that a sincere compliment stems from a genuine feeling of admiration.  Also offering a compliment without thoughts of personal gain is also imperative to giving a sincere compliment.  While these two factors ensure that your compliment is sincere the next few factors ensure that your compliment is received as being sincere.  Speaking from your heart and not rehearsing a compliment and offering your compliment in a timely manner and preferably in front of others create the appearance of a sincere compliment.

Money, Sex & Children: How to Avoid Life’s Greatest Battles

Some of life’s greatest battles are over issues such as money, sex and children.  While these are issues that elicit passionate responses and feelings, it is possible to deal with these issues without arguing.  In fact not only can you avoid battles over these issues, but these issues can also enhance your relationship.  Having realistic expectations about these issues can help you to avoid or resolve any conflicts over these issues.  Money, sex and children are the source of many problems in a relationship so it’s advisable that you proceed with caution when these subjects arise. 

Money can be a tremendous source of tension and disagreements in a relationship.  Many couples struggle with financial matters and this perpetual struggle leads to tension in their relationship.  One way to alleviate the tensions associated with financial concerns is to make sure both partners are involved in financial matters.  If both partners are away of the amount of resources available to them and their monthly expenditures, they will both have a better understanding of where they stand financially.  This way if problems arise, neither partner is caught off guard in this situation.  It is also important that couples share the financial decision making process especially in regards to large purchases.  Sharing in making these decisions will ensure that each partner has the opportunity to voice their opinions or concerns and feels as though they are working as a team with their partner.  

Conversely, if one partner makes a large purchase without consulting their partner, the relationship may suffer because the partner who was not involved in the decision begins to feel left out and hurt.  When a couple shares the financial responsibilities there is less likely to be problems that arise as a result of finances then there are when one of the partners takes sole responsibility for the finances. 

Sex can also be a source of trouble in a relationship.  Too much sex, not enough sex and sex that is too routine are common complaints in a relationship.  Some of these battles may be avoided by scheduling sexual encounters on a regular basis.  While it may sound unromantic to do this, the truth is that with work, children and other responsibilities sometimes there just isn’t time for sex unless it is scheduled ahead of time.  Scheduling will ensure that the couple engages in physical contact every so often instead of letting this aspect of their relationship take a back seat to other obligations.  Boring or routine sex is another common complaint in a relationship.  You can keep things interesting by varying your routine every once in awhile and trying new things.  You can also avoid problems related to sex in your relationship by discussing your likes and dislikes with your partner and encouraging your partner to be open with you about their likes and dislikes as well.  Sex is a healthy and necessary part of a relationship but it can also be a source of conflict in the relationship. 

Children are a blessing in a relationship but they can also be a source of many battles in the relationship.  The most important issue with children is whether or not a couple is both interested in having children.  If only one of the partners desires to have children then introducing children into the relationship can be a recipe for disaster.  If you are not both committed to having and raising children then it is best to put off having children until you are both ready to be parents.  If children are already a part of the relationship, they can still cause problems.  Arguments over disciplinary tactics are very common.  The couple may not agree on how to discipline their child and this disagreement can not only be detrimental to the relationship but can also be confusing for the child.  To avoid battles over children make sure you and your partner are committed to having children before attempting to conceive and discuss disciplinary tactics and come to an agreement that you will both abide by in dealing with the children. 

Money, sex and children are the subjects that couples argue about most often.  These volatile subjects can also be a source of great joy when managed correctly but until the couple learns how to do this, they will continue to be explosive issues.  The keys to dealing with these issues without starting battles is to tread lightly and not force your opinions, discuss the issues before they arrive and try to make the best of the existing situations without constant complaints.

18 TIPS FOR SMOOTH SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP IN MARRIAGE FOR MEN

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The place of sex in marriage cannot be overemphasised. It is infact, the bedrock of a good communication and understanding in the home. Sexual relationship between a man and his wife will help them to express their innate feelings for each other.

Here are tips for a smooth sexual understanding in marriage:

1. Be informed and have a better understanding about sex.

2. Love your wife as a person.

3. Work on any known fear or problems about sex. For example body odour, mouth odour, discharges etc.

4. Don’t use sex as a weapon against her.

5. Remember the possible implications of sexual intercourse and make adequate provisions for them.

6. Consider your wife – in time of child spacing, menstruation, sickness, sadness/ emotional disorder etc.

7. Use condom and other family planning devices strictly on Doctor’s advice.

8. Identify the sensitive female sexual parts- the vagina, clitoris, and breast.

9. Start the arousal (use sweet words and tender touches) many hours before the time.

10. Avoid harsh words, arguments or discussions that will change the mood.

11. Avoid/ reduce distractions. For example by the children, noise of the bed, unlocked door.

12. Protect her privacy.

13. Know the most sensitive part of her body that arouses her. Let her show you.

14. Practise self control, try to arouse her enough before intercourse. This is foreplay. E.g kissing, hugging, petting, touching, undressing each other.

15. Say some lovely words to her during the intercourse and play for a while (even after ejaculation) before the withdrawal.

16. Don’t be in haste, let her enjoy it also.

17. Watch the position used and assess the comfortability.

18. When all things fail, pray!

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Wedding Preparation Guidelines

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Announcement:

It is the responsibility of the bride's family to announce the wedding in the local newspaper. The announcement should include: A photograph of the bride (A high school yearbook picture is acceptable); Name of the groom, education completed by both bride and groom (do not include elementary school, unless that was the terminal degree.); current employment and planned residence after the ceremony (If living with the bride's parents, it is not necessary to specify where in the house you will reside).

Invitations:
Since you are having a planned wedding and you are expecting a lot of free stuff, you must send out invitations! They do not have to be lengthy. Something like "You are invited to watch John Smith and Jennifer Johnson make it legal on March 14, 2000." will suffice nicely. If you don't want to be so formal, you can always run down to the local bar and yell "If you aint doing nothin' on the 14th of March, why don't you stop by my house for a cold one about 2 o'clock. Me and Jennifer's having some friends over to watch the ball game and witness our weddin'."

Proper attire:
For the bride, the key words are "be conservative." No matter how good it may look, refrain from wedding outfits made with spandex or adorned with fringe. Excessive slits and dips also are frowned upon. This is not the occasion to show the world how big "they" are.

For the groom, a rented tuxedo is haute courture, but if it means the difference between going on a honeymoon and staying home, concider some alternatives. For example, a leisure suit with a cummerbund and a clean work shirt can create a natty appearence. And though possibly uncomfortable, say yes to socks and shoes for this special occasion.

The ceremony:
No matter how urgent the event, loaded weapons have no place at the alter. At the point in the ceremony that says, "If anybody has any reason why these two should no be joined in holy matrimony..." tell the preacher not to pause too long, old flames sometimes die hard and talk too much.

Reception:
Remember to reserve the UAW hall far in advance, and avoid Saturdays, since that's bingo night. It is perfectly acceptable to ask guests to wipe their feet before entering the hall. After all the cleaning deposit can be the difference between an oil change and a full tune-up for the car.
When dancing never remove undergarments, no matter how hot it is!

Common wedding questions and answers
Q: Is it all right to bring a date to the wedding?
A: Not if you are the groom.

Q: How many showers is the bride supposed to have?
A: At least one within a week of the wedding.

Q: What music is recommended for the wedding ceremony?
A: Anything except "Tied to the Whipping Post".

Jokes About Marriage, The Six-Day War, Modern Warfare (Performed Live On The Ed Sullivan Show/1968)
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Wrong Perceptions Of Sex Outside Marriage

If you ask me the question, is sex good or bad? I will say both. Yes, sex is good within the confines and context of marriage. And marriage refers to a legitimate union between a man and a woman. However, outside marriage, sex is a poison (so to say), subtle destroyer of marriage and marital success.

Many married people are getting their fingers burnt, their emotions battered, their reputation tarnished, the happiness in their marriages short-circuited because of sex outside marriage. Folks, it is possible for you to tow the path of honour by practicing self discipline with personal determination.

When you discipline your body as a married person committed to your spouse, you will find it easier to exercise self control in other areas of your life. This will make fidelity to your spouse easier since you have already learnt how to tame your body.

The following are some of the wrong perceptions of sex outside marriage:

• Everyone is doing it, what’s the big deal? Let me do it too.

• If I do it, my spouse will never found out.

• Doing it, does not mean the end of my marriage and it will not cause problem to my marriage. After all, what you don’t see cannot hurt you.

• Having sex makes me feel on top of the world.

• Sex is an act of nature, which should be done anywhere, with any one, whenever you feel like it.

• Abstinence from sex outside the marriage is a sign of weakness.

• The way to show my success is to have sex outside marriage as much as possible.

• Having sex with my partner shows I am cool and trendy.

• Real men have sex when they feel like it.

• The true value of a woman lies in the number of men she sleeps with.

All the above perceptions about sex outside marriage are wrong. Unfortunately, many married people have believed and fallen victim to these wrong ideas.

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Couples Beware: Immoral Sexual Traps

Sex is a very important divine gift of every married couple. It is an honorable and exclusive reserve for the married partners. The resistance to the emotional sin of sexual immorality solely depends on one’s spiritual ability and capability. Some see nothing too wrong with this, but everything is wrong with it. You see, it is a covenant broken and this will open the door for the destruction of the foundation of your marriage- Trust.


The devil will never give up in wanting to destroy the TRUST in your marriage, it will make endless incursions using all manner of tricks and traps to cause an unsuspecting partner(s) to fall into the sin of lust, and then extra-marital affair. You can choose to ignore these numerous tricks at your own peril.

Here are some of the traps and tricks:

1. When an opposite sex shakes your hand and holds the hands endlessly.

2. When you are lavishly admired by an opposite sex at the expense of others.

3. When an opposite sex blocks your way almost all the time for a body contact.

4. A co-worker (an opposite sex) prefers to walk a very long distance to seek your help or borrow an item from you, which is available within reach.

5. Anyone who provokes your body almost all the time when talking to you physically or on the phone or through sms.

6. Take a stand on sexual immorality. Maintain it.

7. If an opposite sex treats the sin of lust, romance, hugging and sex as nothing serious.

8. When you start admiring the shape, stature and other sensitive parts of an opposite sex.

9. When you are told, ”Don’t let your partner hear what we have discussed”

10. When the opposite sex offers you a gifts like underwear, sanitary items, condoms, etc

11. When given a gift or cash with the instruction, “Don’t ever show it to your partner”

12. Turn down any relationship that will not accommodate your spouse

13. When he/she will come to show you a new dress and then asks for your kind comment

14. If you are caught in any of these traps, seek counsel.

15. Fast and pray yourself out.

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Re:Sex In Marriage

In a response to the article I wrote on Sex In Marriage: Beyond Intercourse (http://marriagesuccesses.blogspot.com/2010/03/sex-in-marriage-beyond-intercourse.html), a reader asks me the question, "What Could Lead To Sex Denial In Marriage". Well, I would say something about this question. First I want all my readers to contribute to this question. There is give for the best response to this question. The gift is an amasing ebook about 'Conflicts In Marriage'.

Response is opend for two weeks.

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I Can Change My Spouse! Can You Really Do?

Any time I hear people say, “I can change my wife” or “husband” as the case may be, I can’t help thinking whether they actually can or need to. Let ask this question, “With whom are you in love?” With the person as he or she is, or as the person will be after your remodelling efforts? It is difficult to change ourselves, much more so to change others.

Be very skeptical of a prospective spouse’s promise to make a sudden change for you! Though bad habits can be corrected or modified, this may take time, even years. Nor can we ignore the fact that inherited traits and environmental factors have given us temperaments and molded us in certain ways to make us distinct individuals.

True love can move us to help one another to improve on weaknesses, but it will not move us to try to force a spouse into a new and unnatural mold that crushes his or her personality. Some have in their minds an image of their ideal, and they try to fit every passing infatuation of theirs into this image. 

  

Of course, no one can measure up to an impossible dream, but the infatuated one hangs on tenaciously and tries to force the other person to fulfill their dream. When this fails, he or she is disillusioned and searches elsewhere to find the imaginary ideal. They seek a dream person that does not exist beyond their own fantasies. People who think like this are not good marriage material.

You may perhaps have had such dreams. Most of us have at certain times in our lives; many young people do. But with increased emotional maturity, we realize that such fantasies must be put aside as impractical. In marriage, what counts is reality, not mere imagination.

Marriage Joke

Too Much Speeding


A police officer in a small town stopped a motorist who was speeding down Main Street.

"But, officer," the man began, "I can explain"

"Just be quiet," snapped the officer. "I'm going to let you cool your heels in jail until the chief gets back."

"But, officer, I just wanted to say"

"And I said to keep quiet! You're going to jail!"

A few hours later the officer looked in on his prisoner and said, "Lucky for you that the chief's at his daughter's wedding. He'll be in a good mood when he gets back."

"Don't count on it," answered the fellow in the cell. "I'm the groom."

10 Incredibly Nice Things to Do For Your Husband

There are a number of incredibly nice things that you can do for the man in your life to let him know how much he means to you.  Really thinking about his personality and hobbies and personalizing your gestures will demonstrate that you care about him.  You will surprise the man in your life with your thoughtful and tailored gestures. 

One incredibly nice thing you could do for him is to make arrangement to have his car professionally detailed.  Many men take pride in their car and enjoy spending their time to make sure it looks and runs its best.  You can let him know that you understand his fascination with his car by making the arrangements to have the car detailed.  If you know that he will be out of town for a few days, try making the arrangements for that time so that it will be a surprise for him when he returns.  If you are unable to do this in secret, go ahead and let him know about your plans. It’s okay that it won’t be a surprise because he will probably enjoy being involved in the process. 

Another incredibly nice thing that you can do for the special man in your life is to take the responsibility of completing a chore around the house that he usually performs.  For example if he usually takes care of mowing the lawn, plan to come home from work early one day to mow the lawn before he gets home.  He will not only be excited to not have to take care of this chore but will also be excited that you recognize the effort he puts forth into completing this chore.

Purchasing a gadget that your man has his eye on is another nice thing to do for him.  Many men enjoy all types of gadgets and gizmos and figuring out one that he is interested in and purchasing it for him will be a very welcomed gift.  It will also show him that you were paying attention while he was talking about this gadget and you understand how much it means to him.  He will appreciate that while it may not be something you would want for yourself, you realize that it is something that he will enjoy. 

Still another incredibly nice thing to do for him is to take control of plans for a date.  Men are usually the ones who are in charge of planning and paying for dates so he will be grateful for you making date arrangements for a night.  Carefully plan out a fun date filled with activities that he will enjoy and don’t rely on him to take care of any of the details.  Make the arrangements, drive to the destination and pay for the date.  The man in your life will feel pampered for the evening and will enjoy having the stress of date planning off his shoulders. 

Surprising the man in your life by meeting him at work and taking him out to lunch or on a picnic is another incredibly nice thing you can do for him.  He will enjoy getting out of the office for awhile and having some extra time to spend with you.  The element of surprise will let him know that you are thinking of him.  Also, having a break in his day where he can relax and enjoy your company will make the rest of the day seem to go by much more quickly for him. 

Another incredibly nice thing you can do for the man in your life is to pick up a magazine or book relating to an interest he has while you are out shopping.  Doing so will let him know that you understand his interest and that you want him to have some time to enjoy thinking about his favorite hobby.  It also shows that you even while you were just out running a few errands you were thinking about him.

Learning about the man in your life’s favorite sport is another nice thing to do for him.  He may enjoy spending his weekends watching his favorite sports teams and, if you are not normally a fan of this sport, you will surprise him by taking an active interest.  Try doing some research on your own to learn a little more about his favorite sport and team and the next time he is watching a game, sit with him and ask pertinent questions.  He will be astonished at your knowledge and eager to teach you more. 

Another incredibly nice thing to do for a man is to buy him flowers.  Women receive flowers for special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all but men don’t often receive flowers very often so showing up with a bouquet for him will be a welcomed surprise.  He will appreciate the novelty of the gift and be delighted with the gesture. 

If your taste in music differs from that of the man in your life, one incredibly nice thing you can do for him is to purchase tickets to see his favorite band in concert.  While the music may not be your first choice, it’s something he enjoys so give him a chance to indulge himself.  He will be excited to share his music with you and will be glad that you are interested in hearing the music with him.

Finally another nice thing to do for a man is to learn to barbeque.  Many men greatly enjoy barbequed foods and have even been known to brave freezing temperatures to enjoy a barbequed steak in the dead of winter.  While many men love the chance to barbeque they would also appreciate the opportunity to enjoy a barbeque without having to do any of the work.  Preparing a barbeque will let him know that you realize it’s a meal he enjoys and that you appreciate the effort he usually puts forward to prepare this meal. 

Doing something incredibly nice for a man doesn’t have to be extravagant or complicated.  Simple gestures that show that you understand his thoughts and feelings are those that will be most appreciated.  In surprising the man in your life with some of these examples or other applicable things you will let him know how important he is to you.

10 Serets To A Happy Marriage Part 2

Open and honest communication is also necessary for a happy marriage.  Without communication the relationship will continually struggle.  It’s important to be honest with your partner and share your concern and to listen to what your partner has to say and make an effort to understand their point of view.  Communicating about problems and concerns is important but it’s also important to communicate about your aspirations and even your daily lives.  All of these types of communication bring a couple closer together and foster a happy marriage. 

Along the lines of open communication, it’s also important that you let your partner know if they have said or done some thing to hurt you.  Failure to do so will allow the problem to continue to cause problems in the marriage.  If you bottle up your feelings your partner will be unaware of what they have done to hurt you and may be likely to repeat their actions.  You also may begin to avoid your partner because you are angry and you don’t want to start a confrontation.  Your partner in turn may sense you behaving differently and be annoyed by your behavior.  Simply coming out and telling your partner why you are upset can help you avoid this unnecessary host of problems. 

Understanding that you and your partner won’t always be in complete agreement is also critical to a happy marriage.  While you may agree on a lot of things it’s unrealistic to believe that you and your partner will be in sync at all times.  Its okay to disagree sometimes as long as you respect each others feelings and beliefs and do not think that any one disagreement will be the end of the relationship. 

Spontaneity is also an important part of a happy marriage.  Allowing yourselves to fall into a predictable pattern can lead to boredom but being spontaneous at times will prevent boredom from setting in and keep the relationship interesting. 

Finally, remembering why you married your spouse is one of the most important secrets of a happy marriage.  Always remembering what it is about your partner that drew you to them will make certain that you never forget your love for your partner.  It will also ensure that they are always beautiful in your eyes.  Many things may change throughout the course of your marriage but the one thing that will always remain is the reason you fell in love in the first place. 

A happy marriage is not guaranteed no matter how much the partners love each other.  There are so many variables that can have an affect on the happiness and success of the marriage.  It is important that both partners realize that they must continuously work on all of these aspects if they want their marriage to remain a happy and healthy relationship.

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10 Secrets to a Happy Marriage Part 1

Having a happy marriage doesn’t necessarily come easily just because you love each other.  While love is very important in a marriage sometimes it just isn’t enough and you have to work at your marriage just like any other relationship.  Open communication and careful consideration of each others feelings are two of the emotional aspects that are key to a happy marriage.  Even more mundane details such a household responsibilities and financial understanding can factor into the state of the marriage.  It is imperative to understand that a marriage is a multi-faceted relationship that needs to be nurtured in all of its capacities in order to be successful. 

Being willing to make sacrifices is one secret to a happy marriage.  Both partners in the marriage must be prepared to put their partner’s happiness ahead of their own from time to time for the marriage to truly work.  If either partner is completely self centered and unwilling to make sacrifices it will create resentment in the marriage.  At times the sacrifices may be big but most often it’s the smaller things that matter most.  Even preparing a dish that you don’t like but that you know your spouse likes lets your partner know that you care and are willing to put their happiness first at times. 

While making sacrifices is important in a happy marriage, it is also important to sometimes do things that are just for you.  It’s great to have a lot of common interests but it’s also essential to have some things that you enjoy doing on your own.  Having some separate activities gives you a little time away from your partner once in awhile and gives you a chance realize how much you miss them when you are apart.  It also gives you an opportunity to explore things on your own and prevents boredom in the relationship.

Another secret to a happy marriage is to maintain an intimate and affectionate relationship.  Sharing physical closeness will keep your marriage happy.  Even small gestures such as hugs or holding hands give you the opportunity to reconnect with your spouse on a daily basis.

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Finances can cause a great deal of stress in a marriage so it is important to do your best to ensure that you do not allow your financial situation to destroy your marriage.  When financial concerns arise it is important to discuss the problems so that both partners are aware of what is going on and to work on establishing a budget together.  Working together on this issue will make sure that neither partner feels left out of the decision making process and neither partner bears the stress of worrying about finances on their own. 

Sharing household responsibilities is another secret to a happy marriage.  If either partner feels as though they are taking on too much responsibility in the household it can lead to resentment.  Not only does sharing these responsibilities prevent resentment but it also gives the couple an opportunity to work as a team which strengthens their bond.  Both partners need to take an active role in completing household chores and let their partner know if they are beginning to feel overburdened. 
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10 Incredibly Nice Things to Do For Your Wife Part 2

Handing over the remote control is another incredibly nice thing you can do for a woman.  You may not want to sit through another episode of a home decorating show but allowing the woman in your life to indulge in this without complaining about her choice will show her that you are not belittling her interests.

If you want to do something really nice for the special woman in your life, get to know her family and friends.  Woman value their relationships and she will be pleased about the fact that you take an interest in and get to know the other special people in her life.  Caring about those that she loves shows her that you love her.

Still another incredibly nice thing to do for a woman is to write her a love letter and send it in the mail.  Sure she sees you every day and you may even exchange emails and phone calls on a daily basis but a love letter is something that she can save in a special place and will cherish.  Expressing your love in a letter is a special way to tell a woman that you care deeply about her.

Planning a trip for your woman is another incredibly nice thing you can do for her.  A vacation is always nice but when you take the initiative and plan out all the details ahead of time, it shows that you want her to have the enjoyable experience of the trip but that you are willing to take care of all the planning.  Women tend to take the lead in making travel arrangements and verifying the logistics of trips but if you take care of that ahead of time, the woman is free to just focus on packing for the trip.

Another incredibly nice thing to do for a woman is to surprise her at work by showing up for a lunch date.  Woman always love to be surprised and your lunch date will give her the opportunity to get out of the office for a little while and enjoy some time with you.  Many women skip lunch or work straight through it but giving her the opportunity to break away from her desk for even a half hour will give her a welcomed chance to relax a little bit.

Finally if you want to do something really nice for the woman in your life, it could be as simple as opening the car door for her when you go out.  Women enjoy being independent but small chivalrous gestures are always appreciated.  If you normally rush to the driver’s side of the car and hop in, stop once in awhile to open her door first.  It will show her that you want to protect and care for her and will make her feel well loved.

There are many ways you can show your love for the special woman in your life.  Many of the items listed above may be seemingly small, inconsequential things but it is these little things that really show a woman that you care.  Doing nice things for a woman demonstrate that you want to go out of your way to make sure that she is happy.

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If your relationship is starting to lose its passion and love you may need to make a conscious effort to re-ignite the spark in your relationship and reawaken the passion.  Sometimes it may take elaborate plans and gestures to reawaken the passion in your relationship and sometimes it may just be small seemingly insignificant things that can help you to reawaken the passion in your relationship.

Planning a romantic weekend getaway can be one way to reawaken passion.  A trip to a spa or a romantic destination can help to put the passion back in your relationship.  This type of trip gives a couple the opportunity to step away from their everyday lives and spend some time focusing on romance. 

Treating your partner with respect can also be a simple way to reawaken passion.  Sometimes people get in the habit of taking their partner for granted while they continue to treat complete strangers and casual acquaintances with respect.  People tend to work harder on casual relationship than they do on their romantic relationship because they take their partner for granted.  Making an effort to impress your partner, however, can help to revive the passion.

Doing something new and adventurous can also help to reawaken the passion in your relationship.  Try an activity that you have never done before such as skydiving or water skiing.  Participating in an adventurous sport can make you feel more alive and this will transcend into your relationship and reawaken the passion.

Holding hands is another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship.  This simple act draws you and your partner closer together.  Most couples hold hands all the time early in their relationship but as time goes by they begin to do so less and less often.  Grabbing your partners hand and holding on while you run errands can make your partner feel desired again and this will help put the passion back in your relationship.

Another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship is to plan date nights.  Spend some time getting dressed up and plan a night out on the town.  Putting this level of effort into a dinner date makes it feel much more special and romantic plus it gives you a chance to let your partner know that you are still interested in spending time with them.  No mater how busy your week is, plan to have at least one night a week where the two of your connect in a special way.  Even if it’s just some quiet time at home after the kids go to bed or even a family game night with the kids, it will give you time to bond. 

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Taking care in your own appearance is still another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship.  If you feel good about yourself, you will be more appealing to your partner.  Spend a few extra minutes getting ready to go out and really pamper yourself.  This will give you a confidence boost that can help bring the passion back to your relationship.

Complimenting your partner can also help to reawaken passion.  Noticing when your partner puts extra effort into their appearance lets them know that you still find them desirable and attractive.  Even complimenting them when they aren’t all dressed up, lets them know that you love them for who they are and not just their appearance.

Even just planning trips that you would like to take in the future can reawaken passion.  Spend an afternoon thinking of trips you would like to take together and make a list of all the places you want to go and all the things you want to do.  This type of daydreaming draws a couple closer together and can revive passion. 

Spending some quiet time together daily can be another way to reawaken passion.  Plan on having at least a few minutes alone with your partner each day to help put the spark back into your relationship.  Taking time to reconnect daily can help keep the passion in your relationship. 

Taking a bath together can also help to reawaken passion in a relationship.  This is a very sensual activity that makes you both feel pampered and gives you the opportunity to reconnect on a physical level.  Beyond that it can also give you a chance to relax and unwind after a hard day of work and sometimes it’s the stresses of everyday life that are putting a damper on passion. 

If your relationship is starting to lose its passion it doesn’t mean the relationship is over.  All of these examples are simple ways that a couple can reawaken the passion in their relationship.  As long as the love still exists, it is possible to bring back the passion.

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10 Incredibly Nice Things to Do For Your Wife Part 1

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 You can demonstrate your love for the special woman in your life in a number of small ways.  Flowers and candy on special occasions are always nice but you can also surprise a woman by offering smaller gestures on a daily basis.  She will appreciate your thoughtfulness and understand that you are trying to show her how much she means to you.

One incredibly nice thing to do for her is simply to ask her how her day was and listen intently to her answer.  Women enjoy talking about their personal issues and expressing an interest in her career or other areas of interest will be greatly appreciated.  Listening carefully to her will let her know that you are interested in her thoughts and care about her feelings.

Cooking for a woman is another incredibly nice thing that you can do for her.  Most women are the primary cooks in the relationship and giving her a night off from her usual kitchen duties is always a welcomed gesture.  Don’t worry if you don’t know how to cook, it’s really not that hard.  There are many cook books and Internet sites that offer a wide variety or recipes.  Pick one that sounds interesting and follow the instructions carefully.

Remembering and celebrating a small occasion is another nice gesture that women appreciate.  It’s always nice to celebrate on big occasions but if you remember the anniversary of another special day the woman in your life will be completely caught by surprise.  For example celebrate the anniversary of the day you brought home your new puppy with a trip to a dog park.

Another incredibly nice thing to do for a woman is to give her compliments when they are unexpected.  Women expect compliments when they put a lot of effort into their appearance but letting her know you think she is beautiful while she’s running errands, demonstrates that you see her inner beauty shining through at all times.  Compliments don’t always have to be about physical characteristics either.  You could compliment her on her career accomplishments and let her know that you appreciate how hard she works.

10 Ways to Recharge Your Romance Part 2

Making a concerted effort to impress your partner can also recharge the romance in a relationship.  As a relationship progresses there is often a sense of familiarity and comfort that emerges and results in the couple feeling as if they no longer need to try to impress their partner.  They may begin to let their appearance go or stop going out of their way to please their partner.  Reversing this by returning to your old ways of trying to impress your partner can go a long way in recharging romance in a relationship.

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Taking a trip together can also have the effect of recharging your romance.  While planning a trip may be stressful most people relax and enjoy themselves once they reach their destination.  Planning a trip with your love will give each other the opportunity to enjoy each other’s company without the worries and hassles of everyday life. 

Turning off the computer for a few days can be a really simple way to recharge your romance.  Many couples use their computers often to check email, search the Internet or chat with others and this time spent on the computer can really add up and begin to take time away from your partner.  Time can fly when you are computing and you may find that you have wasted an entire night on your computer.  You may find that if you turn the computer off for a few days, you have a lot more time to spend with your love and the romance may naturally return to your relationship. 

It is natural for romance to begin to fade if the partners begin to take each other for granted and stop trying to impress each other.  Romance doesn’t exist on its own; it needs to be nurtured in a loving way in order to survive.  Recharging your romance and love may seem like a daunting task but it really isn’t.  Making an effort to spend time together, showing your partner that you care and scheduling time together and apart are all simple ways to recharge your romance.

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What is the "Ideal Honeymoon?"

So you are planning your honeymoon - Congratulations! The honeymoon is an important part of the wedding experience. A much-needed break after months of exciting and often exhausting wedding planning!

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When it comes to honeymoon planning, most couples try to select the destination first, while travel agents often suggest a more productive way to begin. Unless your dream destination has already been set in stone, first decide what type of vacation you want. Then you can narrow down your list of destinations accordingly.

Resorts are very popular honeymoon destinations. They transport you into another world, for a wonderful escape from the daily grind of everyday life. They are often set in the most picturesque and beautiful places in the world, including pools, private beaches and golf courses. There are wonderful restaurants and relaxing spas for you both to experience.

All-inclusive resorts streamline the enjoyment process by including everything.  Your room, transfers, recreational facilities, meals and drinks are included in the one price. Without the worries of wondering how much everything little thing will cost, you are free to live the high life experiencing everything you want as often as you want it.

If an all-inclusive resort sounds tempting but too stationary, consider taking a cruise. Cruises are often floating resorts, which take you away to one exotic port after another. Whether you want a cultural cruise to the Caribbean region, or a wildlife adventure up the Alaskan coast, your travel agent will match you and your partner to the perfect honeymoon experience!

10 Ways to Recharge Your Romance Part 1

Early in a relationship the romance factor is very high.  The romance is seemingly effortless and it seems as though the romance will never fade.  You may find, however, that over time the romance does fade and the relationship doesn’t seem as exciting as it did in the beginning.  This is natural as a couple becomes more familiar with each other they begin to make less of an effort in the romance department.  When this happens it is time for the couple to start making a conscious effort to recharge their romance.

Recreating your first date can be one way to recharge your romance.  Both partners probably put a tremendous amount of effort into their first date and it was probably an incredibly romantic night for both of you.  Reenacting this first date by not only returning to the sight of the first date but also putting the same effort into preparing for the date can help to recharge your romance by reminding you of how exciting your relationship was in the beginning.

Leaving your work at the office is another way to recharge your romance.  If you are constantly allowing your work life to interfere with your romantic life it is time to put your romance ahead of your career.  While it is okay to talk to your partner about work and how your day went, obsessing over work is not acceptable and can put out the fire in your romance rather quickly.  

Giving your partners flowers or small gifts for no reason can also recharge your romance.  This lets them know that you still think about them when the two of you are apart and that your love for them is always on your mind.  The gifts don’t have to be expensive or extravagant but if they truly come from the heart they will help to recharge your romance.

Another way to recharge your romance is to be spontaneous.  Romance often fades when a relationship becomes routine and the partners begin to take each other for granted.  Spicing things up by suggesting new activities on a whim can reintroduce the romance in your relationship.  Too much planning and debate about what to do or where to go can put a damper on the activity or trip before it even takes place.  Excessive planning can make something seem dull while spontaneity has the opposite affect of making the activity seem more exciting.  

Spending time apart can also recharge a romance.  It may sound counterproductive but having your own activities and interests keeps you from becoming bored with your partner.  Spending time together is very important but spending time apart is equally important because this time apart gives you the chance to grow as an individual which can enhance your relationship. 

Quality time together, just like time apart, can also help to recharge your romance.  You need alone time as a couple to reconnect and nurture your romance.  A night out on the town for just the two of your or a quiet night alone at home can be equally effective for recharging your romance.  Without this time together a couple will not have the opportunity to express themselves to their partner in a romantic way. 

Incessant arguing can destroy the romance in a relationship.  If you find that you and your partner are arguing constantly or over every little thing, it’s time to really evaluate the relationship and figure out why you are arguing so much.  Believe it or not, you may find that this arguing is a subconscious attempt to try to recharge your romance.  Arguing invokes passion and you may be trying to bring that passion into your relationship.  If you find yourself doing this, it’s time to realize that the arguing is having the opposite effect and that you have to stop this unhealthy pattern.  Once you realize that there are other ways to recharge a romance your arguing will subside. 

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Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines love as, “strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties,” and defines lust as, “an intense longing”.  These two conflicting definitions help to separate love from lust.  By definition alone the two differ in that, love is based on an affinity while lust is based solely on desire.  The two also differ in how they affect a relationship but sometimes it becomes difficult to separate the two because lust can exist in the presence of love.  Analyzing a loving relationship and a lustful relationship separately will help us to learn to distinguish love from lost. 

Love has a positive affect on a relationship because when love exists in a relationship both partners hold the happiness of the other in a high esteem and place the happiness of their partner ahead of their own desires.  Love affects relationships in a myriad of ways including how the couple interacts, the leisure activities they participate in and the longevity of the relationship.  In a loving relationship the couple behaves thoughtfully towards each other and is mindful of their partner’s feelings.  In this type of relationship, each partner places themselves ahead of their partner and they strive to treat each other lovingly and with respect.  Also, in a loving relationship the leisure activities that the couple participates in are based on a mutual love and respect.  Activities are chosen with careful consideration to the partner’s feelings.  In a loving relationship the partners typically engage in activities that they either either strongly agree on or those that are a compromise.  While a couple in a loving relationship may not always be in complete agreement regarding leisure activities, they strive to compromise to ensure that both partners have the opportunity to engage in their preferred activities.  Finally a relationship that is based on love is usually long lasting.  The presence of love in the relationship enables a couple to work through any problems or difficulties that arise in the relationship and helps the relationship to endure.  The thoughtfulness and caring that exists in a loving relationship helps the relationship to grown and endure. 

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Conversely a lustful relationship may not necessary have a negative affect on a relationship but it also may not be as positive as a loving relationship.  Similarly to love, lust also affects a relationship in regard to how the couple interacts, the activities the couple participate in and the durability of the relationship.  The primary difference between a lustful and a loving relationship is that while in a loving relationship the partners place a high value on the happiness of their partner, a lustful relationship is one in which the partners are consumed by their own desires.  The partners in a lustful relationship place their needs and wants ahead of their partner’s desires.  This alone is enough to make their partner feel disrespected and to not place a high value on the relationship.  The fundamental selfishness that exists in a lustful relationship trickles down and affects the activities in which the couple participates.  While those in a loving relationship strive to compromise and find activities that they both enjoy, those in a lustful relationship are more prone to insist on participating in activities that they enjoy regardless of whether or not their partner will also enjoy this activity.  One final characteristic of a lustful relationship is that it is typically short lived.  A lustful relationship is driven by passion and desire and once a goal is reached the partner becomes no longer desirable.  With nothing else to drive the relationship it soon begins to wane and the couple often separates.  Lustful relationships are characterized by a selfishness and lack of respect that typically results in a short and tumultuous relationship. 

Complicating the issue of separating love and lust is that it is often possible for lust to exist within a loving relationship.  The existence of lust within a loving relationship is often driven by a desire to become closer to the partner.  This is a natural occurrence as a physical relationship is extremely important in a romantic relationship.  When lust exists within a loving relationship it is not necessarily detrimental to the relationship.  As long as the lust does not take over the love and become the dominant characteristic it can be a healthy part of the relationship.  The opposite is not true, however.  A lustful relationship can not also include love.  The primary characteristic of selfishness does not enable love to factor into a lustful relationship.  Placing your own desires ahead of your partner’s precludes the formation of a loving bond.  While it’s not possible to have a lustful relationship with the existence of love a little bit of lust mixed into a loving relationship can lead to a closer connection and stronger bond for the couple.  

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Separating love from lust can be complicated but the key factors to remember is that a loving relationship is one based on selflessness and thoughtfulness while a lustful relationship is characterized by selfishness and thoughtlessness.  These fundamental differences often affect whether or not a relationship will be long lasting and will endure the test of time.  The separation of love from lust is further complicated by the fact that lust can exist in a loving relationship.  The opposite, however, is not possible.  Understand that lust can factor into a loving relationship and have a positive affect on the relationship is key to understanding the differences between love and lust.

Family: How to Spend Quality Time with Your Kids

Are you a mother who is also a career-oriented woman?  If you are, you may have number of different issues tugging at your heart.  In today’s society, many mothers are fearful of putting their family first, especially in certain circumstances, in fear of losing their jobs.  With that in mind, there are many mothers who are fearful that their children will grow up resenting them due to the amount of time they spent focused on work. 

While being a mother and a career-oriented woman, all at the same time, may seem like an impossible task, it is a task that you can more than perform.  What you need to remember, although difficult as it may be, is that you should be a mom first.  However, that doesn’t mean that you should just toss your workload to the side and not care.  There are a number of different ways that you can go about being a good parent, while still brining home an income.  One of those ways involves spending quality time with your child or children when you are not working. 

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One of the best ways for you to go about spending quality time with your child or children is by creating a schedule for yourself.  This schedule can be used to outline any important events that you and your child or children have planned.  Although your schedule does not need to be followed right down to the letter, it is important to have one. Mothers who create schedules for themselves are more likely to follow through with their plans.

Speaking of your plans, you may be wondering what you should do to spend quality time with your child or children.  Of course, it is important to keep your child’s age in mind. A child who is three years old will prefer different activities than one who is nine or ten years old.  With that in mind, there are a number of different activities that many children, including those of all ages, love.  A few of those activities are outlined below for your convenience.

One activity that you may want to think about doing with your child or children is taking them to the zoo. Regardless of where you live, you should have a zoo within a reasonable driving distance to your home.  Zoo trips are fun and exciting, as they often last all day.  What is nice about zoo trips is that they are fun and educational all at the same time.  This means that your quality time can benefit your child or children in more ways than one.

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Another activity that you may want to think about doing is taking your child or children to the movies.  Whether your child is three years old or fifteen years old, there should be a movie playing that would likely interest them.  Going to the movies is nice, as many children view it as a treat.  For more affordable movie tickets, you may want to think about going to see a movie with your family during the daytime.

Additional activities that many children enjoy are those of park visits, museum visits, and sporting events.  In all honestly, it really doesn’t matter what you do.  To your child or children, how matter what their age, they will likely just appreciate the fact that you took some time away from work to have fun with them, no matter what the activity.
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