Isn't it amazing how a few words can change everything?
"I want a divorce."
"You're just like my first wife."
"I'm done."
"You're just like your mother."
"I hate you."
"You're fat."
"You're a loser."
"You can't do anything right."
What have you said that's been hurtful? What has your spouse said to you that broke your heart or poisoned your relationship? In frustration or rage, people say the dumbest things and use the most obscene language.
Even if you or your spouse didn't mean to say it, once it's said, the damage is done.
It's like tearing open a down-pillow in a wind storm. You desperately want to get the feathers
back, but they're blowing in every direction. Like feathers of a pillow, hurtful words are
irretrievable. That's why it's so important for spouses to learn to control themselves and watch what they say.
You see, there's actually a MARITAL reason you have 2 ears and only 1 mouth. It's because you're supposed to LISTEN twice as much as you talk. Imagine how different your marriage would be if you and your spouse did that.
Yes, you might say, “I was just being HONEST.”
People think they can say anything in the name of honesty. But, when you hurt someone
with your words, it's not honest; it's stupid. And it's insensitive. Truth (in relationships) is not just a statement that's factually accurate. It's a statement expressed with the utmost concern for another person's feelings. That's more than honest; it's Truth with a capital "T." I'd love to teach you more about truth, honesty, and how to protect your marriage from destructive dialogue.
- How to express your feelings in a healthy way.
- How to know what you mean and mean what you
say.
- How to say what's on your mind without
destroying your marriage.
- What does it really mean to be honest with your
spouse?
- How to control destructive impulses and
calculate your words.
- How to listen so your spouse will talk.
- How to talk so your spouse will listen.
- How to heal from past hurts and mistaken comments.
Guess I will be writing about these things in my subsequent articles. See you.
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