Nagging Spouse? What You Need To Do

Talking about behaviours that put strain on marriage and hence reduce the possibility of having a successful marriage, nagging is one such behaviour. Nag is to constantly scold. When you do this to your spouse every time, you become “an old horse”. This could be irritating, very irritating.

No one wants somebody that nags about things almost every time- 24hours a day, 7 days a week (you know 24/7?). Nagging spouse put stress in a marriage and it reduces the possibility of a successful marriage. The cause of the incessant nagging may be because you are not giving enough attention and affection to your spouse, for the spouse to continually nag at you for the little, little things. It could also be that your spouse is stuck in the same boring routines of life and need to experience something outside of the box.

You love your spouse (no doubt), but lately, you find your spouse constantly nagging over silly things. Before the love varnishes and paves the way for annoyance, it is time you confront the situation, rather than nag about your spouse’s nagging. Positively addressing the situation will lead to a successful marital life.

So, what can you do about your spouse nagging?

First, you need to identify the things your spouse nags about. Having identified them, you need to objectively examine each of these sources of nagging. The purpose is for you to ascertain whether your spouse actually have good reason for complaining.

Second, you need to make up for those ones that your fault. Since you know them, you can easily make amends. Even if it means little inconveniences- anything for that will bring peace in the home front. Start on them immediately. The success of your marriage depends on it.

Third, for those causes that are really not your doing (it may be that your spouse is insensitive to some things happening around them), you need to sit your spouse/ partner down and discuss the problem. Point it out that you really dislike the nagging habit. If they value you, the marriage and they love you for what you are, then they are bound to reduce this nagging habit.

Most times, they don’t know that they are really doing it. When you are doing the talking, it is important to let your spouse/ partner know how feel, but don’t get carried away. Don’t fight, argue or abuse. If you do any of this, you are going to be no better than the nagging spouse/partner.

Lastly, don’t expect magic overnight after discussing the issue. If their nagging reduces visibly after your talk, then you know that things are getting better. The fact is you must compliment your spouse/partner for the simple reason that he/she has really made an effort to manage self control. This only shows their love towards you and how much the relationship means to them.