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Saturday, September 18, 2010

Salvage Your Relationship Before it Ends


Understanding - Understand that happiness comes within. If you are one of those people that says "my partner doesn't make me happy", maybe you should consider for a moment why you thought they would? True happiness comes from within yourself, and unless your partner is a true horror of humanity, a thoroughly unpleasant person, chances are the only reason you are unhappy is because of something inside yourself, some unfulfilled potential or hidden dream. Insecurities can also haunt a person and rob them of any chance of happiness.

Work as a Team. Unify as one. - Unify your home. Talk over how you picture your home in your mind. It's important to agree on this, as if you both aspire to making the home a different way, it's going to cause long term conflict. The typical example is the man wanting his home to look like his home, with his things where he can get at them etc, and the woman wanting everything neatly filed away at all times like a show home. You need to compromise together, as it's not really fair for either of you to expect the other to live how you want them to.


Spend time together, and interact. - Arrange some together time. It doesn't even need to be a particularly large amount of time, the point is that it should be just the two of you and no distractions. No TV, no company, no kids (if you have them) just the two of you. This will help you retain a sense of how to interact with each other. If an argument starts, take 5 minutes and calmly talk it over – this time should be spend enjoying each other at all costs.

Think to the past as positive, not negative. - Actively reminisce about past times. The good times you have shared can act like the glue that bonds you together, and it can be genuinely good fun to talk about the past and exciting things you have done together. Another plus point to this is that the more exciting and fun things you do with each other, the more stuff you will have to reminisce about. Bringing up the past can be touchy, especially when done in a spiteful way. So think about the joy you’ve shared, not the heart ache.
 

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