Here are some questions for married couples to consider:
1. If you give yourself time to think, do you not often discover that there is no good cause to be angry?
2. Do you keep yourself cool, and hold back words that would make your spouse hot.
3. The word that is right at one time may be wrong for another time. Are you perceptive as to what are the right words at the right time?
4. Before you speak, do you stop and think what effect your words will have on your spouse.
5. Sometimes when you upset we say more than we mean, and we are sorry after wards. Do you guard against this?
6. It takes two to argue. Are you matured enough to be the one to stop?
7. Do you continually rehash old disputes, or do you love your spouse enough to put them behind you?
8. Are you too proud to make concessions and seek peace in your marriage?
9. Can you stop arguing, or must you have the last word?
10. Do you dwell on differences and thereby prolong the misery for both yourself and your spouse
Answering these questions and trying them out will benefit your marriage. Similarly, be willing to try the suggestions your spouse makes. See if it works. Who is to blame if something goes wrong? That’s not important. What is important is how things can be made right. Be flexible, air differences, talk them out, and don’t take yourself too seriously.
Communicate! If you ‘love your mate as you do yourself’, it should not be too difficult to adjust to the marriage relationship and to make it a happy one.
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