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Sunday, November 7, 2010

10 Ways to Recharge Your Romance Part 1

Early in a relationship the romance factor is very high.  The romance is seemingly effortless and it seems as though the romance will never fade.  You may find, however, that over time the romance does fade and the relationship doesn’t seem as exciting as it did in the beginning.  This is natural as a couple becomes more familiar with each other they begin to make less of an effort in the romance department.  When this happens it is time for the couple to start making a conscious effort to recharge their romance.

Recreating your first date can be one way to recharge your romance.  Both partners probably put a tremendous amount of effort into their first date and it was probably an incredibly romantic night for both of you.  Reenacting this first date by not only returning to the sight of the first date but also putting the same effort into preparing for the date can help to recharge your romance by reminding you of how exciting your relationship was in the beginning.

Leaving your work at the office is another way to recharge your romance.  If you are constantly allowing your work life to interfere with your romantic life it is time to put your romance ahead of your career.  While it is okay to talk to your partner about work and how your day went, obsessing over work is not acceptable and can put out the fire in your romance rather quickly.  

Giving your partners flowers or small gifts for no reason can also recharge your romance.  This lets them know that you still think about them when the two of you are apart and that your love for them is always on your mind.  The gifts don’t have to be expensive or extravagant but if they truly come from the heart they will help to recharge your romance.

Another way to recharge your romance is to be spontaneous.  Romance often fades when a relationship becomes routine and the partners begin to take each other for granted.  Spicing things up by suggesting new activities on a whim can reintroduce the romance in your relationship.  Too much planning and debate about what to do or where to go can put a damper on the activity or trip before it even takes place.  Excessive planning can make something seem dull while spontaneity has the opposite affect of making the activity seem more exciting.  

Spending time apart can also recharge a romance.  It may sound counterproductive but having your own activities and interests keeps you from becoming bored with your partner.  Spending time together is very important but spending time apart is equally important because this time apart gives you the chance to grow as an individual which can enhance your relationship. 

Quality time together, just like time apart, can also help to recharge your romance.  You need alone time as a couple to reconnect and nurture your romance.  A night out on the town for just the two of your or a quiet night alone at home can be equally effective for recharging your romance.  Without this time together a couple will not have the opportunity to express themselves to their partner in a romantic way. 

Incessant arguing can destroy the romance in a relationship.  If you find that you and your partner are arguing constantly or over every little thing, it’s time to really evaluate the relationship and figure out why you are arguing so much.  Believe it or not, you may find that this arguing is a subconscious attempt to try to recharge your romance.  Arguing invokes passion and you may be trying to bring that passion into your relationship.  If you find yourself doing this, it’s time to realize that the arguing is having the opposite effect and that you have to stop this unhealthy pattern.  Once you realize that there are other ways to recharge a romance your arguing will subside. 

1 comment:

  1. A true relationship comes from the heart and the more you love someone the more beautiful they become.

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