Be Respectful.Why not try it out?
The truth is that, we shouldn’t worry that our children never listen to us. Instead, we should worry that they are always watching us. It is true. When we tell our kids to pick up their toys, they don’t listen. We raise our voices, and they still ignore us. Then, we become irate and yell, and they have a temper tantrum or break down into a fit of tears. But not before they have taken careful note of our actions.
Infact every time we tell our to do something, we are teaching them a lesson. We are telling them to do one thing, but really showing them how to do something else. When we yell at them in anger, we are showing how to get someone to listen to us. When we throw toys into the toy box or kick toys out of the way as we point our fingers, we are showing them how to display their anger.
Think about when you are driving your kids to school in the morning. A hurried driver cuts you off and you swerve to avoid getting side swiped. “Moron!” you yell, as you correct the wheel. You shrug it off and silently thank God that nothing happened.
Your kids in the back saw what happened. In these situations, we rarely explain to our kids that the other driver made a mistake by changing lanes without signalling or by turning right just as we crossed a green light. Instead, we show them how to handle such situation: curse and complain.
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