Some people who are in relationship cannot make ‘head or tail’ of the direction the relationship is heading. And the reason, they are not sure whether they are dating the right guy. Some people say they just knew that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you are not sure if he’s the right guy?
If you are considering long-term commitment or marriage, it’s time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, are ten signs that may indicate he’s not for you....
1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/wearing/saying/ if he wants your relationship to work. If you are fixating on his flaws, he’s either not the one you want or you’re not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace- or at least accept.
2. You don’t trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you’re hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something is wrong. If there is something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he’s not the right one for you.
3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy for your relationship. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all....even if it looks that way.
4. When you’re sad, you don’t turn to him for comfort. When you are a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can’t see you at your worst? If you’re worried about scaring him away, one of you isn’t ready for total commitment. Mr Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.
5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He’s sweet. He’s exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he’ll do so on his own terms.
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