In an online sex survey I recently read, I was astonished to see that, 98% of the people in the relationships admitted that they are not happy with their sex lives. Reason being that, sex-lives have become too predictable. I quite agree with that fact. Most of us follow a predictable routine when it comes to sex lives.
Check out this scenario: Time is 2300hrs, Day is Saturday night.
You have just finished brushing your teeth, slipping into bed, you feel the telltale stroking of your thigh or breast. Of course, you need no one to tell you what comes next. There will be the reaching for your breasts, the tongue in your mouth, then, the inevitable perusing, thrusting, changing into about three positions, then oooh, it is all over.
It was good, hot and meaningful sex, wasn’t it? You came, he came. So, why the little dissatisfied niggles as you drift off to sleep?
If you have been having sex with the same partner for a few years, you tend to learn what you both like in bed and will repeat techniques that always seem to work for both of you.
The problem is, even if doggy-style was once your favourite position, it’s going to lose its magic after sometime. Imagine, if you know the whole procedures of having sex with your partner, then, you know what is coming (you are able to predict or even, play the whole process in your mind, right from the time your partner touches your thigh) and, there is no excitement, no element of surprise and there will be none of the adrenalin rush associated with having a great sex.
The consequence of this is that, where sex life becomes too predictable, it will lead to loss of passion between partners. Since marriage is all about being passionate about your partner, stale sex life might be the start of a troubled marriage.
Partners might seek exciting and unpredictable sex life outside their marriage, and this will cause tension at home. This fact becomes clear when a partner gives all sorts of excuses for not wanting to have sex with his/her partner as at when the partner seeks such sex.
Stale sex life will cause tension in the home, sexual rejection, abandonment and eventually, loneliness. But all the while, your partner will be having an unabated and very exciting sex outside.
In the online survey that I mentioned earlier, people in relationships actually complained that, their love lives had lost its sparkle. It is my believe, that, there is a sure-fire way to get back that dead and unexciting sex life. It might just be that, we all need to be coaxed outside our bored, straight jacketed sexual life. We need to improve upon the kind and manner of sex we are already having and take it a step further. Add creativity into it. Explore new territories, to add spontaneity into your sex life. You will be saving your marriage from collapsing and at the same time, have a fulfilling, interesting and exciting sexual relationship with your partner.
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