Five Stages Leading To Relationship Breakup Part 2

Exposure – both partners mutually become aware of the problems in the relationship. In Relationships, having problems with your partner equates to frustration, bitterness, regret and sadness. Are the problems that you are experiencing with your partner making your life difficult and depressing. I know this might be hard to believe but in relationships “winding off” the communication is so poor that spouses never talk about their problems. They become accustomed to holding everything inside, and only talk about their problems to others but not to each other.

Negotiation – both partners attempt to negotiate a solution to problems.  Negotiation is a dialogue between the two parties, intended to reach an understanding, resolve points of differences in their relationship, or gain advantage in outcome of dialogue, to produce an agreement upon courses of action to take from thereon. Negotiation is intended to aim at compromise. So, the two partners just decide to talk after holding things inside them. This is in a manner of “so what happens now”, with each trying to gain an advantage for themselves by the end of the process.

Resolution and transformation – both partners apply the yield of their negotiation. By this stage, excuses , pleas, promises and forgiveness have been given and accepted. Both partners agreement to work on their relationship is put into action. Partners  try to mend their actions that is destroying their relationship with a view to improving the relationship and hences stay together. They may perhaps have a plan to getting back on track, this plan is put into work and each partner honestly make efforts at staying together.

Termination – proposed resolution fails to rectify issues and no further solutions are accepted or applied. By this stage, the handwriting is seen on the wall, things did not workout as planned. Promises has been broken over and over again. Behaviours that destroy relationships are repeated over time such that there is anger, worry, dissappointment, guilt and regrets.At this stage, the mind is made up and there is no going back. One or both partners walk away.

Whatever relationship you are in presently, you need to examine the relationship vis-a-vis things happening in it. You may have gone through four of these stages over and over again without knowing. Now that you know, maybe it is time to call it quit if you are not getting what you want or hoped for. It is better than a heartbreak you know!

Five Stages Leading To Relationship Breakup Part 1

Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours

If you you want to know about relationship breakup, then you need to continue reading the articles. The article will explain things about relationship breakup and the stages leading to breakup. Usually, there are five stages leading to relationship breakup; dissatisfaction, exposure, negotiation, resolution and   transformation and finally, termination. At the end of this article, you will be able to know how to accurately analyse your relationship, so that you will know if and when your relationship is heading for the rocks. It may perhaps also be the time for you to change your perspective about that relationship you are into presently.

A relationship breakup, often referred to simply as a breakup, is the termination of a usually intimate relationship by any means other than death. The act is commonly termed "dumping [someone]" in slang when it is initiated by one partner. The term is less likely to be applied to a married couple, where a breakup is typically called a separation or divorce. During the dynamics of relationship breakup, there exists a "turning point", only noted in hindsight, followed by a transition period in which one partner unconsciously knows the relationship is going to end, but holds on to it for an extended period; weeks, months,  sometimes for a number of years.  Nearly one-third of all Americans have experienced a breakup in the past ten years. It is however not surprising that,  the younger the person, the more likely they are to have experienced more than one breakup in the last decade. This is because young people are more actively dating than older generations, though this may be changing with the growing divorce rate, and thus adults are breaking up more frequently as well. This makes breakups one of the more common emotional experiences in modern society.

There are five stages leading ultimately up to a breakup. The stages lead one to another:

Dissatisfaction – one or both partners grow dissatisfied with the relationship.  Many of us are dissatisfied in our love relationship. It's not that we are unhappy but we have days of vague discontent when we wonder, 'is this it'? Days when we wonder if we made a mistake in choosing our partner; moments of lingering misgivings on the suitability of our partner; and wondering if there is someone who would be a better fit for us than our current partner. The Break-Up

If for example you feel that your partner does not love you; what thoughts are going through your mind when you feel like that? What is the source of those feelings? Analyze what they have done or not done to make you feel that way.

 Sometimes your discontent may be as a result of unresolved issues that have built up over the years. You need to sieve the past from what you feel right now and urgently find a way to make peace with the past. If you need to talk to your partner about it. Sometimes your discontent may be because you have been with your partner a long time and you have begun to see only their negative attributes. When they say that 'familiarity breeds contempt', I suspect this is what they mean.

Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours 

Arranged Marriage Part 2

Families use dowries to attract a son-in-law with desirable qualities, such as a particularly bright man from a poor but respectable family or a man with higher status but with less money than the bride’s family has. In societies in which the giving of dowries is customary, families with many daughters can become impoverished by the costs of marriage. For this reason, in Europe in earlier times some families sent “extra” daughters to convents. In India and China, where it is expected that every woman will marry, families have sometimes tried to limit the number of daughters born to them through infanticide (the killing of infants). An Arranged Marriage

In some societies, the groom’s family gives property (known as bridewealth or brideprice) not to the new couple but to the bride’s relatives. Particularly in places where bridewealth payments are high, the practice tends to maintain the authority of fathers over sons. Because fathers control the resources of the family, sons must keep the favor of their fathers in order to secure the property necessary to obtain a bride. The custom of giving bridewealth occurs primarily in parts of Africa, the Middle East, and Asia. Anthropologists characterize bridewealth as compensation to the bride’s family for the transfer to the groom’s family of the bride’s reproductive capacities or her ability to work. They debate whether the practice should be seen as the actual sale of a daughter or whether it is a ritual—that is, a symbolic act—rather than an economic transaction.

Although arranged marriage persists in many cultures today, as modernization proceeds and many areas become part of the global economy, parental influences on marriage continue to decline. Young people who work for wages rather than on the family’s land no longer depend as highly on their parents’ resources. As Western popular culture—including motion pictures, television, music, and fashion—spreads around the world, many young people are drawn to Western notions of love, romance, and individual choice. In some places, such as Japan, people combine modern Western and older cultural practices. (Un)Arranged Marriage

Who Are Adopting Children?

There is a lot to wonder about adoption. You will want to take a lot in mind when it comes to adoption. You will find that all kinds of people will consider adoption, but adoption is also a wonderful way for you to build a family.

There are many people who have their children through adoption. A majority of those are couples who want to have children but for whatever reason can't get pregnant with their own children. There are a lot of couples who will adopt because one or both of the partners have problems with their reproductive system.

However, some couples also choose to adopt because there are genetic things in themselves that they don't want to pass on to others. Genetics is something that brings a lot of concern when it comes to conception of a child. Genes are often the reason why a child is born with a disease or disability, and to avoid such things, people will adopt.

There are also instances of single people who want to adopt children. Many single parents were divorced or windowed, but still would like to have the opportunity to be a parent. Many times these people have always wanted children but don't want to have biological children, so in order to make a family they turn to adoption.

Also, couples that are not married and homosexual couples are also prominent in adopting fields. Many people will try to become parents in any way and every that they can by trying to avoid a foreign baby or child. For these couples, it is simply a matter of wanting to be a parent and not being able to on their own. For them, and for many others, adopting is the best option so that they can be parents and continue to live the lives that they have always wanted to live.

Use the many resources that you will find when it comes to considering adoption. You will find a lot of information about adopting so you can make a good choice about wanting to have a family. Adopting is an option that many people will chose and they will find it fulfilling.

Marriage Quote

Mathew Carey wrote in the early 1800s that in his opinion men should always
treat their wives as equals, but today’s feminists would shudder at much of
his advice. He recommends that a woman should “study to discover means to
gratify [her husband’s] inclinations” in her cooking, her dress, and her manners,
and that she should “never attempt to rule, or appear to rule her husband.” Carey (1760-1839)

 

Arranged Marriage

Historically parents have played a major role in choosing marriage partners for their children, and the custom continues in the world’s developing countries today. Parental influence is greatest when the parents have a large stake in whom their child marries. Traditionally, marriage has been regarded as an alliance between two families, rather than just between the two individuals. Aristocratic families could enhance their wealth or acquire royal titles through a child’s marriage. Marriage was also used as a way of sealing peace between former enemies, whether they were kings or feuding villagers.

The most extreme form of parental influence is an arranged marriage in which the bride and groom have no say at all. For instance, in traditional Chinese practice, the bride and groom meet for the first time on their wedding day. In some upper-caste Hindu marriages, children are betrothed at a very young age and have no voice in the decision. In a less extreme form of arranged marriage, parents may do the matchmaking, but the young people can veto the choice. Some small cultures scattered around the world have what social scientists call preferential marriage. In this system, the bride or groom is supposed to marry a particular kind of person—for example, a cousin on the mother’s or father’s side of the family.

In many traditional societies, marriage typically involved transfers of property from the parents to their marrying children or from one set of parents to the other. These customs persist in some places today and are part of the tradition of arranged marriages. For example, in some cultures the bride’s parents may give property (known as a dowry) to the new couple. The practice of giving dowries has been common in countries such as Greece, Egypt, India, and China from ancient times until the present. It was also typical in European societies in the past. Although the giving of dowries has been part of the norms of marriage in these cultures, often only those people with property could afford to give a dowry to the young couple.

First Comes Marriage: Modern Relationship Advice from the Wisdom of Arranged Marriages.

29 Consequences Of Sex Outside Marriage

If you want to know the consequence of having sex outside the marriage, then this article is for you. The article will look at all the negative things that could result from infidelity in marriage, so that at the end of of the article you will be wiser for it.

Transcending Post-infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD): The Six Stages of Healing 

1.      Shame, disgrace and embarrassment of oneself. This is worse off for the female.

2.      Loss of self-respect, dignity and honour.

3.      Cheapening of oneself before ones spouse.

4.      Risk of contracting of sexually transmitted diseases.

5.      Propensity to contract incurable diseases like the dreaded HIV/AIDS.

6.      Risk of future infertility as a result of untreated sexually transmitted diseases.

7.      Propensity to get pregnant or father a child outside your marriage.

8.      Open invitation to become a source of ridicule, mockery and stupid jokes.

9.      Guilt feelings of regret and mental trauma over a long period.

10.  Propensity to suspect and falsely accuse your partner.

11.  The tendency to be sexually abusive either as a victim or perpetrator.

12.  Loss of moral ethics and the possibility of becoming a sex maniac.

13.  Open invitation to troubles in your marriage.

14.  Loss of reputation before respectable people.

15.  Depletion of financial resources.

16.  Waste of time and energy in wrong relationships.

17.  Loss of talent and creative ability.

18.  Loss of focus and poor concentration.

19.  Emotional peril and heartbreak.

20.  Possibility of becoming morally bankrupt and corrupt.

21.  Propensity to desire and seek new sexual experience.

22.  Likelihood of never really being satisfied or content with your partner.

23.  Inexplicable feelings of filthiness and dirtiness.

24.  Morbid fear of the unknown.

25.  Loss of reputation before God Almighty.

26.  The danger of eternal damnation.

27.  Waste of money, time and energy in repairing troubled marriage.

28.  Negative effect and impressions on the children.

29.  Break up of marriage leading to divorce and the consequence effects of divorce on everyone involved.