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Sunday, May 29, 2011

Wedding Present

This summer, we have more than a few weddings coming up.  While I look forward to these events with great anticipation, I always have difficulty coming up with an idea for that perfect wedding present.  I know I will also be invited to the bridal showers for these events, which leads me to need two presents instead of just one.

The good thing is that bridal shower presents can generally be purchased from a wedding registry, and if you go to the store early you can get good pick and wind up with something that you really want to give to the recipient.  However, if you wait too long after receiving the invitation, presents will be picked over and you may end up with something that would not be your first choice.  In the end, though, bridal shower presents are generally much easier to purchase than a great wedding present.

I probably over think things, but I try to give a wedding present that goes along with a theme.  For instance, if I know they like being outdoors, one of my favorite gifts to give is a really nice all inclusive picnic basket and a few bottles of wine.  Or, if I purchase something like a mixer I also like to include a few personal recipes or even a full cook book purchased from a store.  Generally, I think it is nice to try to keep a wedding gift on a smaller size scale because it is difficult to transport gifts after a wedding reception.  Trying to keep that in mind, things can get a little dicey!

Many times, the type of wedding gift you give can depend on the area the wedding is taking place.  Some areas of the country have customary gifts, especially if it is given from a family member.  Also, in many areas of the country it is customary to simply give some form of money as a wedding gift.  I know in my area of the country, you very rarely see wedding gifts on the table during the wedding, but there are plenty of cards containing money.  However, when I go to family weddings in the Midwest, a wedding gift is usually a physical present and not money.

I am sure I will find something to give as gifts for my upcoming weddings, and I’m sure I will overanalyze what I end up giving.  I will have to just remember that it is the thought that counts, and if worse comes to worst I can always give the appreciated gift of cash!
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Friday, May 27, 2011

I Don't Like Your Attitude

People always fluctuate in their behavior from day to day and we all have had our times in which we acted rude to people, and had the pleasure of having the reverse happen as well. Kay Redfield Jamison an international guru of about mood disorders has had her share of mood swings during her times.  For years she kept this extreme psychological disorder a secret in which she had moods that switched from being super excited known as mania, to times that she was lethargic and depressed. She actually wrote a book about these events and tells about it in more detail. By the way, the disorder was known as bipolar disorder and effects many people around the world. With determination, a strong will, and support from her family and friends she overcame her struggles and continue to teach about psychological disorders to this day.

  I know that you're probably wondering what are the types of characteristics of deviant or abnormal behavior? Well, one way abnormal behavior can be diagnosed is with some common symptoms.  It may surprise you that there are about 40 million Americans that are affected by some type of psychological disorder. You may think of a psychological disorder as what the main character had in the movie "A beautiful Mind." In essence you are right but there are a lot more other characteristics involved and a psychological disorder can also be defined by having an addiction to a substance like alcohol or drugs.  To fully understand psychological disorders an individual must analyze abnormal behavior. Let's take a look at three different case studies.

* A twenty six year old woman named Helena has a need to walk in a specific way. When she is walking on the street in the public she believes that if she steps on certain cracks she will have bad luck, but in order to reverse that bad luck she has to turn around and walk back a block. She doesn't like to do this much so she often stay home and pay people to go and pick up her groceries and other needed items.
*  A thirty five year old woman has recently got a divorce from her husband who she has been previously married to for eleven years and has two children with. Her husband have left her for her best friend and she is going back to college to continue her education so she can earn some more money to better support her children. She has a hard time struggling with school work and has grown separate from her friends and colleagues. A lot of the time she doesn't feel like doing much and tends to cry a lot at nigh time. She also has a more pessimistic view in life and doesn't believe in true love anymore.
* A thirty year old man named Don has to have things arrange in his house a certain way. Even though he is wealthy enough to afford a maid he constantly has to rearrange things in his house after she leaves. He sweeps the floor and wipes off tables even though she has done that before.

Most people would say that the behavior of all of these individuals are abnormal, but are all of them bizarre? That's a common myth about behavior, because people will automatically assume that abnormal behavior is bizarre and it's not necessary true.  Take the women in the second case study described even though her behavior is abnormal it is not necessary bizarre. A lot of times people with abnormal behavior cannot easily be distinguished from people with normal behavior.  Also, just because a person currently has a mental disorder doesn't mean that they will always have it.  

The term abnormal behavior varies from different academic mediums. However, the federal courts define insanity which is more of a legal term rather than a psychological on as the inability to differentiae right from wrong. This is a very common term that comes up in terms. One infamous example is in 1996 when multimillionaire John Dupont shot and killed Olympic Gold medalist wrestler David Schultz. He also has been charged with a couple of assaults earlier. Dupont lawyers used the "insanity" definition as a lame excuse to get him off the hook and it worked because in the end because the jury declared that he had a psychological disorder and he was found guilty of third degree murder. There are three criteria's for crossing the line between abnormal behavior and normal behavior. Abnormal behavior is usually deviant which means it abstracts from the norms of society.  However, remarkable people like Martin Luther King and Bill Gates are not the average person but they are far from being abnormal.  

When a behavior deviate from what is expected by society than it could be called abnormal. The second criteria are that it is usually maladaptive which means that it interferes with a person's ability to function properly in the real world. Last, abnormal behavior includes personal distress.  This means that the person is deeply bothered by this and it causes them unnecessary pain and suffering.  The causes for abnormal behavior can vary tremendously.  We can look at several factors such as biological, psychological, and sociocultural factors to help determine this.  Psychologists who favor the biological approach tend to emphasize the brain and genetic traits as the primarily cause of abnormal behavior.  When using this approach the primarily form of treatment is drugs or drug therapy. The biological approach is used often in the medical model, which describes psychological disorders as diseases related to biological origins.  From the medical view abnormalities are seen a mental illness.  The people that are infected with the mental illness are known as patients and they have to be treated by doctors.  

The biological view can also be broken done into three more categories. These are known as structural views, biochemical views and genetic views.  The structural view thinks that abnormalities in the brain structure are the main lead to mental disorders.  The biochemical view looks at the imbalances in the brain's chemical structure such as neurotransmitters and hormones as the cause to mental disorders.  In the genetic view they look at distorted genes as the main contributor to mental disorders. While the biological approach focuses on inherited traits to be the main contributor to mental disorders, the psychological approach looks at the environment and the unconscious mind as the main contributor to abnormalities.  This has three parts to it which includes the psychodynamic perspective, behavioral and social cognitive prospective, and the humanistic perspective. 


The psychodynamic perspective thinks that psychological disorders come from unconscious conflicts that can cause anxiety and a maladaptive behavior. The main contributor to deviant behavior in this approach is from early bad relationships. If an individual develops bad relationships with either offspring early on in their life than the individual will develop abnormalities. Sigmund Freud was the developer of the psychoanalytic approach in which it places more emphasis on what you can't physically see. In the behavioral and social cognitive prospective they place an emphasis on the environment in shaping abnormal behavior.  They believe that people learn behavior by observing those around them, through self control, through their beliefs in themselves, and through a variety of other cognitive factors which are the key to psychological disorders in this approach. In the humanistic perspective they place an emphasis on an individual's freedom to do what they want and chose their own destiny and personal characteristics.  They believe that psychological disorders come up when an individual fails to meet their own potential.  

All of the psychological perspective focuses on the individual.  The next approach is the sociocultural approach. This concept places a larger emphasis on the area in which an individual lives such as their family, neighborhood, economic status, and culture. For one example, they believe that a conflict between one's cultures will be a contributor to a mental disorder in an individual.  It's not necessary the individual that has a mental disorder but rather to an unbalanced social life.  There are also some gender effects in determining mental disorders. Women are more likely to have internal mental disorders, which are disorders that affect them inside.  They are more likely to be effected with anxiety attacks, and moods of depression. On the other hand, men are more likely to be effected with external disorders or disorders that are seen outward.  Some examples of these disorders are substance abuse and moods of aggression.  Many psychologists now believe that psychological disorders are universal which means that they are the same for people everywhere around the world regardless of geographic location or their social status.  However, depending on the factors I just mentioned they do vary.  There are also some disorders that strictly effect people of one culture, and here are three big ones that I'm currently aware of:  Amok, Windigo, and Anorexia Nervosa.  

The Amok effect people of Malaysia and the Philippines and in this disorder and individual suddenly has a fierce burst of rage and anger and kill and injure as many people as possible before they are killed.  This disorder is commonly found in males and the cause of this can be numerous of factors such as jealously, or losing a lot of money through gambling.  Windigo is a disorder commonly found in Algonquin Indian hunters and is very similar to a horror story in which an individual is hunted and chased by a fictionist character and become bewitched such as by a bit of a vampire or werewolf.  The hunter becomes worried that they will turn into a flesh eating cannibal and harm other around them.  

The last disorder, I think that many Americans is aware of the last disorder and that is called anorexia nervosa and effects people of mainly Western cultures with a special emphasis on the people in the United States.  This is an eating disorder in which an individual tries to maintain an unhealthy low weight through starvation which can ultimately lead to death.
Inside the Mixed Marriage: Accounts of Changing Attitudes, Patterns, and Perceptions of Cross-Cultural and Interracial Marriages

Thursday, May 26, 2011

5 Ways To Improve Your Sexual Health And Fitness


Men's Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying SexHow would you like to learn how to improve your sexual fitness? If you will really like to know, then you need to read this article. If you as a man aren’t sexually healthy, then your desire for sex will be less assertive. I mean you are bound to skip “meals” (so to say).  Ask a woman if she is fit for sex and she will tell you straight away to what extent the state of her body impacts and impairs her sexual state of mind. Ask man the same question, and because most men tend to have sex with their penises instead of their whole bodies and minds by which they measure their sexual health. This suffices to say that these men are not sexually fit. Specifically, the article will look at issues such as exercise; eating well; avoiding stress; sleeping well; and taking vitamins- all these helps in maintaining good sexual health and fitness.  At the end of this article, you would be able to know how to get your groove on as it relates to an enjoyable sex while maintaining sound health.
                          
1.       Eat Well: A poor diet is a major contributor to heart disease, high cholesterol, arterial plaque, and high blood pressure, among other conditions, all of which inhibit blood flow to the penis and negatively impact erectile quality and desire. So what’s the desire diet? Eat for the heart and not for desire. No, I am not going to prescribe a precise food recipe, but I will tell you that the key is a diet of nutrient density. In short, when the ratio of nutrients to calories in a food is high, as in the case of most vegetables, fat burns off, and health is maximized. You must no longer just love to eat; eat to love too.
2.       Sleep Well: Just as vital to our physical well-being as food and water, a good night’s rest often finds its expression in a man’s morning erection. So don’t hesitate to have a good night sleep. An anxious, sleep-deprived man will never have the energy for sex and will also be unattractive.
3.       Avoid Stress:  Not only does stress mar sexual performance, the medications commonly used in its treatment such as anti-anxiety drugs, tends to depress the libido and inhibit desire. But with or without pharmaceutical aids, men, like women, feel less sexual when they’re emotionally distressed. It is important to avoid all source of stress; be it financial, work load, sexual issues, loss of job, feeling of guilt etc.
4.       Exercise A lot: Not only are both exercise and diet vital to sexual vitality, but also, for men and women, when weight is up, body image and libido go down (and for men, down is never good). Exercise also plays a major role in generating positive self-esteem, perhaps the most powerful sexual enhancer. You wouldn’t believe how many men suffer from poor body image. And as women know all too well, low self-esteem dampens sexual desire. Regular aerobic workouts keep the blood flowing and the arteries producing nitric acid. Nitric oxide is the life blood (literally) of the male erection and is essential to sexual arousal. Exercise is like foreplay, pushing yourself physically will get you juiced-up, you can then channel all these energy into sex. So, if your sex drive is low, why don’t you take to exercises.   
5.       Taking vitamins: Most vitamins and minerals will be found in a quality multivitamin. L-arginine, an amino acid, is a building block of protein and converts to nitric oxide, which as discussed earlier, is vital to sexual arousal. Pycnogenol is a combination of many anti-oxidants extracted from the bark of a pine tree and is known to protect the heart, fight those nasty free radicals, and increase sexual arousal. Omega-3s, which are found in certain fish, also reduce plaque that build up in arterial walls and impairs blood flow. Vitamins C and E are powerful anti-oxidant supplements that protect against free radicals and reduce fatty deposits in the blood. So the taking of multi-vitamins will go a long way to boost your sexual health.
For many couples leading hectic professional lives, scheduled sex has become fairly common place. Unfortunately, scheduled sex cannot work: You’re half-heartedly going through the motions, relying on a mechanical sense of arousal to get you going rather than a genuine desire to pleasure each other and connect intimately. Getting sexually healthy and fit through eating well, sleeping well, avoiding stress, regular exercise and taking vitamins, will help put sexual life active with your spouse and marriage being better off for it. So, get going and get back on track on your fitness for an exciting and enjoyable sex with your spouse.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Exercise Can Help You Increase Your Sexual Health And Save Your Marriage


The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple's GuideIf you want to know what sexual health means and how it could cause problems in your marriage, then you should continue to read the article. Also, if you have sexual health problem and you want a way out of it, you need to read on too. The article will look at the meaning of sexual health, the problem it could cause in a marriage, what type of exercise, and how such an exercise could help to improve your sexual health. After reading this article, you will be able to know whether you are sexually fit for some rounds of sex with your wife/spouse.

Women know and understand all too well how their sense of physical well-being influences their level of sexual desire. For this reason, if you ask a woman if she is fit for sex, she will tell you straight away. For men, however, much of this is unknown to them; it is a virgin territory. Today, men worry about their weight and fitness. If you relate this to sexual activities, then, their focus on weight and body fitness could be said to be superficial. Men’s understanding of sexual health is how well they can get it up (or how fast), keep it up, and get it off, even if it requires a little porn or a pill to make all these happen. Yes, we have sex with our Penises. Sexual health is being more attuned to ones entire body, head to head and nape to toe i.e., having sex with our whole bodies and minds. It is to have truly embodied and ultimately out-of-body sex.

Sex is the second causes of problems in the home and divorces (comes after financial problem). A husband that is unfit for sex or sexual activities is no good to his wife. Such a man cannot give his wife genuine orgasm.  What we have most times are wives faking orgasms to make their husband have a feeling that they have performed very well in bed. This would eventually lead to a situation where the wife just lies down for her to get it in and out of her in the shortest time.  The husband enjoys it and the wife, doesn’t get any amusement and joy from sex with her husband. The two are just not connected in body. Soon, the non-connectivity will spread to other aspects of their home with the consequence being loneliness and eventually divorce. In reality, our sex lives are anything but easy; they’re rife with subtext, miscommunication, and ambiguity, as well as unspoken wants and guilty desires.

Exercise can be used to improve sexual health. Some types of exercises have found to improve blood inflow into the arteries which is essential in sexual arousal. Regular aerobic workout keep the blood flowing and the arteries producing nitric oxide. Now, nitric oxide, this substance is the life blood (literally speaking) of the male erection and is essential to sexual arousal. If you have not notice, you sometimes feel horniest post-exercise. Also, feel-good endorphins that contribute to sexual arousal are released. Exercise also plays a major role in generating positive self-esteem, perhaps the most powerful sexual enhancer. You wouldn’t believe how many men suffer from poor body image. And as women know all too well, low self-esteem dampens sexual desire.

On a personal note, I was way over my ideal weight about three years ago, and I was basically stuck in a low-level sex rut. I rarely exercised. Not only did I not have the energy for sex, but also I just felt unattractive. The complaints started from my wife, then my friends and my relatives. It affected my marriage, my wife felt disgusted at my appearance and loss of self-esteem. I made a decision to get into better shape, so I went on an exercise and fitness program. Not only did I lose the weight fairly quickly, but also the smallest improvement along the way boosted my self-esteem and libido tenfold. I feel at my most alive when I’m pushing myself physically during a workout, and, consequently, I feel at my most alive sexually when I make love right after a workout. If you are low on sexual health, you need a whole lot of exercises.    


Monday, May 23, 2011

Divorce, Find Out About Keeping The House

When comes to keeping the house, you have to be realistic. Can you really buy them out, can you afford the payments of the house?  It's completely unreal. You should also think about who will get the children. If you don't want the children to be with you completely, then don't expect to get the house, because the house usually goes where the children are. You shouldn't ask for custody because of the house. Children are not leverage in a case.

They should not be used so you can get whatever it is that you want. One of the biggest reasons why someone will sell the house during the divorce is because neither one of them can make the payments alone. If one of you can, you can take advantage and buy out their half or you can sell for your advantage again. If you want the house, ask the other to move out right away. This way you will have a better chance of getting the house, as well as, the other party losing the house since they forfeited over to you. The one who moves out will be seen as very generous person who just gave the other the house. Ask for a removal. This will allow you to have temporary absence, but remember they can also file for a temporary stay in the house, after the other has left. You should have a plan if you lose the house.

You're not guaranteed the house; so don't act like you are. But if you run your business from the house or within the house, you will get the house most likely just because it would be an inconvenience that is unnecessary. It will prove that you have more value towards the home.

You want to make sure that you never leave the house or it will leave your possession. You will want to consult your lawyer on other tips on how to keep the house. You will want to make sure that you don't suffer financially just to keep the home. Some of the things that you will need to keep in mind is who will fix the things around the house. Do you have the ability to pay for the pairs or can you do them yourself?

If you do get possession of the home, you should change the locks. This way you can't have them entering the premise without your permission. You will want to change the locks as soon as they move out. This way they can't harm you during the proceedings. You may even want to install an alarm so that you know that no one can open a window and get in. If you feel that your life is in danger, don't fight over the house. However, as a mother or parent you have the right to protect your children and want to stay in the house. When it comes to disputes that include property, you have to ask yourself if it is worth it and why you are pushing the issue.

To get the house, you will want to think about going through medication. You may find that you will have to give up more things for the house, but you have to wage the house against the other possessions. Usually, if you get the house than you get practically nothing else. You may get child support and alimony, but you don't get any of the other possessions in most cases.

When it comes to divorce proceedings, make sure that you don't have anything to hide. If you do, have a backup plan so that you can clear your name and the courts may be more likely to give you the house. You will want to think about the children as well when it comes to the custody of the house.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Divorce; Learn To Get Past What You Hear

Divorce and Money: Everything You Need to KnowDivorce teaches a person many things. Some people take them to a place that makes them bitter. People lose a lot in divorces and that's not just personal materials. A person will lose a piece of himself or herself through the process of divorce. You should know that when you go through a divorce you might make a lot of personal changes. You will find your own way and become independent. You may change negatively, but eventually you'll get back on track.

You will want to overcome being this way by allowing yourself to learn your lesson, but not hold it against yourself. You will learn so much from a divorce that you may be scared to enter another relationship, but you shouldn't. You should know that your friends and family love you and want you to be happy. Your friends will encourage you, as well as, support you.

One the most important lessons that you will learn from divorce is you are stronger than you think. It takes a lot out of a person and it knock you down. Going though all that you have, you will become a stronger person. It will enable you to handle situations that you normally wouldn't think you could handle. Divorce makes you stronger.

It will also allow you to know the difference between words and action. Your mate might have promised to be civilized and then took everything. This may make you not want to trust anyone ever again, however, you will find a medium of believing everything and distrusting everything. You will know when someone is feeding you a line and you will tell when someone is being truly honest. Actions always speak louder than words. You may want to keep that in mind when it comes to other relationships.

You will also learn to appreciate your friends. You know when you have a true friend because you will never be alone in your times of need. Your friends will always have your back in everything that you do. You will also find that your friends are source of strength. They will encourage you to be better and they will encourage you to have goals and reach for them.  Divorce will also let you know which friends aren't worth a dime. You will be able to tell the difference between an honest person and someone who will stay with you and someone who just uses your friendship every now and then.

Another important less that everyone will learn is that anger helps heal. Although, there are people who say that you should hold back on your anger during times like divorce so that you don't mess up you case. But you need to get angry! You need to yell, you need to curse, you need right your wrong even if it won't help. Once you have expressed your anger you can then learn what it takes to let it go. You can get all your feelings out, all your hurt, and then you can learn to forgive. Anger is the beginning of the healing process.

A "Real" Man's Guide To Divorce: ("First, You Bend Over And...")
Another tip that you will get from divorce is that sometimes it's better to be on your own and follow your own path, whether than put up following someone else. You will be happier being able to control your life you will be a better person if you are able to find your own way of doing things. Your self-esteem will rise because you are an independent individual. It may be something that you never expected from yourself and more of a reason to feel a whole lot better about the situation.
He's History, You're Not: Surviving Divorce After 40

Thursday, May 19, 2011

How to Talk to Your Wife About Sex

In my last article, I wrote about tips for husband on how to talk to their wives about sex issues in their marriage. Well, here is the second installment of the article and this is for the women.

Common conversation topics include work, friends, family, and bills.  One topic that many couples do not always discuss, even though they should, is that of sex.  Are you interested in improving your sex life?  If you are, you may need to talk to your wife, but should you?

Yes. You should.  It is important to talk to your wife.  An open line of communication is important to have a happy and healthy relationship in general.  Poor communication may have a negative impact on your entire relationship, not just your sex life.  Husbands who do not properly communicate with their wives often end up putting their relationships in harms way.  Do not let this happen to you and your marriage.

If you do decide to talk to your wife about sex, namely improving your intimacy, it is important to proceed with caution.  You do not want to criticize your wife or make her feel inadequate.  Are you not having your desires filled?  If so, don’t outright tell your wife that.  Doing so may cause even more problems to arise.  You do want to get the best level of intimacy possible, but you also don’t want to hurt your wife’s feelings in the process.  For that reason, you may want to try a different approach. Consider suggesting new things in the bedroom, such as a new position or a weekend away.

When talking to your wife about sex, it is also important not to push.  If you want to see an improvement in your sex, state so and give a few suggestions.  However, do not keep on brining the topic back up.  Give your wife a few days or even a few weeks to make adjustments in the bedroom.  This time is needed because your wife may be hurt when she learns that you aren’t pleased by her sexually.  It is natural for her to take time to think about the situation before taking action, which may involve implementing a few of your suggestions.

Next, it is important to listen to what your wife has to say.  Unfortunately, many men make mistake of believing that their wives just aren’t interested in being intimate anymore.  Although this can be true in some cases, it likely isn’t the case with your wife.  Your wife may experience other problems.  For example, many women are nervous and fearful of aging.  This may result in them wanting to showcase their body less.  A deceased sex drive may also be caused by something out of your wife’s control, such as a medical condition or a medication side effect.  That is why it is not only important to talk to your wife, but also listen to what she has to say.

If you still do not know how to start a conservation about sex and intimacy with your wife, there is another approach that you can take.  You can consider giving her a gift.  There are a number of great gifts available that can not only be useful in the bedroom, but gifts that can help to get a conversation started.  A book on new sexual positions, a new sexy outfit, or massage oils are all items that you may want to examine.  A gift not only provides you with an opportunity to start a conversation, but it is also a nice gesture.  Depending on what you decide to purchase, you may find it easier to shop online.  Many stores are discrete with the packages they send out; therefore, you should be able to keep your wife’s gift a surprise even if she is the one to pickup the mail.

In short, talking to your wife about sex may be something that you want to avoid, but you shouldn’t.  An open line of communication is vital to a happy and healthy relationship. 
Intimate Issues: Twenty-One Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex
Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty
The Other Woman: Twenty-one Wives, Lovers, and Others Talk Openly About Sex, Deception, Love, and Betrayal

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex

Are you married?  If so, there is a lot that you and your wife probably discuss throughout the day.  Your conversation topics may cover work, family, and the bills.  What about sex?  Do you and your husband talk about sex?  If not, it may be something that you need to discuss with him.  One of the biggest signs that a conversation is needed is if you are currently unhappy in the bedroom.  As much as you may want to talk to your husband about making improvements in the bedroom, you may be curious as to whether or not it is really a good idea.

So, is it a good idea to talk to your husband about sex?  Yes, it is and it is something that you two should discuss.  In fact, an open line of communication is important for all relationships to succeed.  Poor communication is often the downfall of many marriages.  A lack of communication or poor communication may have a negative effect on your whole relationship, not just your sex life.  As a wife, it is your responsibility to talk to your husband and to keep an open line of communication.  If you don’t, you may end up putting your happiness and your marriage on the line.  Do not let this happen to you.

As for the talk itself, it is important that you proceed with caution.  Do not criticize your husband or make them feel inadequate.  If there is one thing that men take pride in, it is their ability to have sex and please their partners.  Unfortunately, that pleasure may not be enough for you.  Yes, you want to bring this to the attention of your husband, but do so gently.  Outright telling your husband that he isn’t fulfilling your needs is likely to create even more problems in your relationship.  Instead, gently approach the subject. You may want to start by casually making a suggestion, such as a new position.

Next, it is important to listen to what your husband has to say.  This is important as your communication should not be one sided.  When talking to your husband about intimacy say what you have to say, but then let them speak his mind.

Why it is so important to listen to what your husband has to say concerning intimacy?  For starters, as previously stated, a happy and healthy relationship must involve communication from other parties, not just one sided conversations.  It is also important to note that their may be a good reason why your husband may not be performing up to your standards in the bedroom.  Are they experiencing uncertainty due to an increase in age, a weight gain, or another change in physical appearance?  What about medical problems?  Did you know that some medical conditions, such as depression, and some medicines can lead to a decrease in the want or need for intimacy?

Even with the above mentioned tips, you may still be unsure as to how you should talk to your husband about sex.  You may be feeling this way if you are worried about the consequences or hurting his feelings.  This is completely natural, but do know that you do have another option. Consider giving a gift or performing a gesture that may lead to the topic of intimacy being discussed.  Whether you plan a spontaneous romantic dinner, purchase a romantic or pornographic movie, or buy something sexy for your husband to wear, a gift may help to get a new conversation started.

As previously stated, talking to your husband about sex and intimacy may be hard for you.  With that said, it is important that you do have the talk.  Not only is an open line of communication important for intimacy, but it is also important for a healthy relationship in general.  As reminder, don’t just talk to your husband about sex, but be sure to listen to what he has to say as well.
The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk: How To Entice, Excite, And Enchant Your Lover With Words 

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Dating Match Services: Why Consider it?

Are you fully aware that there are several sorts of dating match services available online in these days? Have you even laid eyes on any of which? True indeed, dating services have created a trend that hooks people—single, committed, or married into its whole system. To top it all, there are the really exciting and fun filled free dating match services that you may come across with. Whatever your standards and specifications are when it comes to ethnicity, religion, hobbies, interests, body features, and many more, you can always find your match through the effective programming system that comes along with these dating services via the internet. After all, would you still deprive yourself of such chance? Certainly, not. Why would you?

Here are some of the major considerations to focus on when looking into the efficiency of a dating match service.

The community size. Look at the profile bank. How many profiles may you access? Is there a variety of options left for you? The conventional dating match services employ forums, message boards, free internet dating email notifications and chat alerts. It would always be best to join a community which features members who share the same nature of interests and are actively participating.

The geographical locations of the members. It matters that your target's location can make it possible for you to meet up. Your end point is to go out with the person and then allow the growth of a romantic relationship. Yet, if you can make long distance romances work, then you may search from wider geographical areas.

The interest sign up. It is always advisable to include your interests in your profile. These will be the primary tools in matching you with another person. It is often advisable to converse and be matched with people who share the same interest with you.

Since online dating match is becoming a money making industry, so to speak, there is the large possibility that it is turning into a very tiring task. These websites certainly tell all of their clients that they are the best and that they have the number of features that anyone can be definitely happy to enjoy. As the customer, you would be picky when it comes to the services that you would be signing up with. You would want to ensure that it is for the best of your interest.

It is very essential that your chosen dating match services provide you with a pool of choices of prospect people to meet. You would be relying on your service provider with regards to a hopeful romantic encounter and a commitment in the near future. One of the dangers that may confront you is the severity of internet animosity. You can never be assured that the profile that you're reviewing bears all truthful information.

It is significant as well that you share the same interests, can ride on to whatever common discussion, and some other differences which may contribute to the spice and savor of your future relationship. It is not always preferred to have a partner who seems to be your own clone. There is no excitement to it.

Also remember that dating match services can be challenging. Thus, keep your wits intact and never decide impulsively on any choice of yours.