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Having learnt the five basic needs of each spouse in a marriage (if you haven’t, then you should), it is now time to work on yourself to see where you require help in other for you to meet these needs in your spouse. The following four steps will assist the couple to satisfy each others need once you are honest with yourselves in handling them.
Step One- For Wife
a Identify and list characteristics that meet these needs and help build your relationship.
b Identify and list the characteristics that can break down your marriage that you cannot admire in him
c You will be surprised at how many things, are on your list that you admire about your husband, but never express.
Step Two- For Husbands
A Husband, make a list of how your wife helps build sexual fulfilment, recreational companionship, stays attractive, gives domestic support and admiration.
B Then, list characteristics that break down your marriage.
Step Three- For Both
A Choose a time to compare the lists, be encouraged by all the positive things you do.
B Don’t feel like a failure, just make the adjustment. You will see that both husband and wife will agree together to overcome characteristics that destroy admiration for each other.
C There are certain habits that may be hindrance to good relationship. Talk about it and decide that you want to change.
D Plan the strategy you will use to change that habit, follow that strategy.
E Evaluate that strategy to see if the behaviour has changed.
F Keep practising your efforts to improve.
Final Step
A Begin to admire each other, teach yourself to speak words of praise. At first, if you have not been doing so, it may seem awkward and uncomfortable, but it will become smoother and more spontaneous.
B Make effort to reduce criticism and learn to give feedback in the right spirit, honouring him: to honour him means to attach a high value to him, he is more valuable than anything else you have.
C Building self- respect in our husband is a ministry. You can have tremendous input into your husband through admiration and praise.
D Your husband’s self- esteem is fragile, you don’t ever want to quench it. When your husband fails, you fail, when he succeeds, you succeed. Learn to be true “help Meet” for your husband.
It should be noted that, no situation is hopeless. Everyone can create a successful marriage. It
will happen as each person individually dedicates himself or herself to need of their spouse.
Don’t say you don’t have time to spend with each other. You must work everything around
your marriage; make time to be together as a couple and as a family.
